I spent the last 5 weeks gaslighting my boyfriend about a shirt he ordered.

This may be over a small thing but I am so impressed with myself I have to share. When my boyfriend was in the military 2 years ago he ordered a shirt, but by the time I got to visit him at his station the shirt hadn’t arrived. I had to stay for another 2 weeks and the shirt finally arrived. However, I forgot I had it in my luggage the whole time and was left with the shirt I had to bring back to him after he came home. After spending 2 months with him I didn’t want to be around him anymore because he treated me poorly so the shirt was left in a bag in my closet (am I a jerk for doing that? I don’t know, it’s by far not the worse thing I have done). But I never threw it away and always joked it was my boyfriend shirt to the friends I was wearing it with. <br><br>Flash forward 5 weeks. My boyfriend made the mistake of making me mad about something. I don’t know what came to my mind but it hit me that I still had his shirt somewhere in my house. I looked it up, and the shirt was still available to buy from from the online store, but I was hoping he had forgotten about it, and even if he didn’t I would have the satisfaction of keeping a shirt from him. So, I started by calling him and saying “hey can you check if you have this shirt?”. I already knew the answer was no, as he was the one who had spent all this time at my place after he came back so I knew he didn’t have the shirt with him and from our past shared experiences I knew he was always aware of the items he had. <br><br>He confirmed that he didn’t have the shirt and kind of shrugged it off but I knew he was going to be upset if he was going to look into it. So, I said, it’s weird because I have it right here. Then I hung up and never answered his calls.<br><br>The next day, I receive a call from him asking me why I am being petty and to send him the shirt, he understands I was upset but keeping a shirt from him doesn’t make sense. I told him I didn’t have it and that I was joking about having it so I was going to send him the link again and was going to tell him to order it so he could have it right away. He was like “you don’t have the shirt? Then who has it?”. I told him “some girl, I don’t know”. He told me I was lying and that I still had the shirt so I got mad and told him that he was the one lying and asking him if he was cheating. Then I hung up again.<br><br>The next 4 weeks consisted of him trying to get the shirt and me sending him the link to buy it while I continued to wear the shirt to make him even more mad when I posted the pictures on social media.<br><br>This is the funniest part: Last week, he was in the city so he asked me to meet up and go for a walk. I said ok but I didn’t know if I wanted to spend the afternoon with him as all the things he was telling me were helped me realize how unlikable he was. He was being very nice and was doing all these things to clean up after himself and acted like a completely different person. So, I agreed. Then he got back home, while I was packing my stuff to leave, I saw the shirt and put it in my bag. When we were passing by his car he asked me to give him the shirt and was acting like I had agreed to give it to him. I stopped and I told him I don’t have the shirt I already send you the link to get it. He said I lied about having it and that it was right here. I asked him who was going to make me give him the shirt and he told me to not go any further down this path.<br><br>I was like “oh boy, you really fell into my trap didn’t you?”. And I showed him the shirt and wore it while I was walking away and leaving him alone in his car.<br><br>Edit: Holy crap! I wasn’t expecting this to blow up. After re-reading I noticed people are confused about my situation. English is not my first language so I apologize if I didn’t express myself correctly.<br><br>So, to make it clear. I am a woman and the person I was gaslighting is my boyfriend. 2 years ago I went to visit him at his military station and he had ordered the shirt online. However, it never arrived while I was there so I didn’t know if he ever received it. I had it in my luggage and forgot about it. The whole time he was back I never saw him wearing it. In addition, he is the type of person who loses things or forgets about them. After he came back he never mentioned the shirt or looked for it so I assumed he never got it. <br><br>I didn’t spend 5 weeks doing anything to him, it was only the phone calls that I made to him.<br><br>About why I still had the shirt: This shirt is very expensive and the brand is very popular. I am not the type of person to keep something that doesn’t belong to me, but I wasn’t going to spend my money to send him the shirt after he treated me poorly. So, I kept it as it was a very expensive high quality shirt and I knew if I had it somebody else would be able to wear it. And I wasn’t going to burn it or throw it away because of him.<br><br>Pd: The shirt is from Balenciaga and it’s the famous pink long sleeve shirt with the Balenciaga logo.