LPT: Before going into an argument with someone, think about what you want to get out of it.

Before going into a heated argument, take a moment to reflect on what you hope to achieve or gain from the conversation. This simple pause can help you determine whether the argument is worth pursuing or if it's better to avoid it.<br><br>Reflect on what you want from the conversation:<br><br>Ask yourself if you're looking to vent frustration, assert your perspective, or solve a problem. <br><br>Consider whether the argument might escalate into an unproductive shouting match.<br><br>Think about the other person's attitude and willingness to engage in a constructive discussion.<br><br>Evaluate the potential impact of your argument on your relationship with the person.<br><br>Consider the importance and urgency of the issue at hand.<br><br>By taking a moment to reflect on your goals and the potential outcomes, you can avoid unnecessary conflict and steer the conversation towards a more productive and meaningful exchange.<br><br>Example: Bob comes home late from work and finds that his wife, Sarah, left the dishes for him to wash. He feels resentful because he thinks it's Sarah's job to do the dishes after dinner. Before he approaches Sarah about it, he takes a moment to reflect on what he wants to get out of the conversation. He realizes that he's looking to express his frustration and assert his expectation that Sarah should do the dishes. However, he also considers Sarah's attitude and past behaviors. She has a tendency to become defensive and dismissive when confronted. He thinks about the potential impact of the argument on their relationship. They've been having a lot of disagreements lately, and he doesn't want another argument to drive them further apart. He reflects on the importance and urgency of the issue. While he believes it's Sarah's responsibility to do the dishes, he acknowledges that it's not a critical issue that needs to be addressed immediately. Based on his reflection, Bob decides to let go of the issue and wash the dishes himself. He doesn't want to engage in an argument that might escalate and damage their relationship. Instead, he chooses to focus on maintaining a positive and harmonious environment in their home.