I ghosted a guy I had been dating by pretending I was dead.

EDIT: wow, thanks for the gold, kind stranger. I hadn't been on this account in a while because the thread got so stressful to look at. I get that a lot of people thought it was a shitty thing to do, and I apologize fpr my mistakes.<br>This was 2 years ago. I was 20 years old, which is very young and immature. I had no good way to get out of this, and probably shouldn't have agreed in the first place. I know this was a horrible way to end it, and I'm sorry. It was a mistake. I'm no longer a stupid little girl, I haven't done anything like this since, and I have no intention to.<br>Also, I never said he was some random guy I had just met, he was an old friend who I had known for about 5 or so years beforehand. I should have just said no when he asked, but I didn't, and by the time I wanted to back out, I didn't know what the hell to do since it was already a long distance relationship. I should have ended it, but I was young and I didn't know what to do.<br>Also another note: he never contacted my family or friends about my supposed death. He faked it for a while, then basically ghosted everyone I knew. Really done shit too, and he had no business doing it. I didn't tell anyone what I did here, but since I'm never seeing him again or talking to him again, there's no need to keep it secret. It was another reason I was so glad to be done with him, he was a piece of shit to the people I love enough for me to never want to talk to him again. Seriously, he was not a good guy, and I'm not defending him by any means, just wanted to add a little extra detail for some context.<br><br>---<br><br>I think this might be my weirdest confession. When I was 20, I had been casually seeing this guy I had known for years. I was in another country studying abroad, he was in my home country. He was one of those friends that was always flirtatious, but had never fessed up about it before. He had a girlfriend for the first few years I knew him, then cheated on her, then they broke up. <br><br>When we started talking, there were hints of flirting, and that he might be interested in me. I had never been attracted to him, but when he started talking, I didn't think we had that much time for me to back out. The relationship was going to be long distance, so I thought I could just let it die by itself. It started with just little things, messaging, texting, and I thought I could handle it. <br><br>I could talk to him for a few months, and then things would die down once I got home. I thought. <br><br>He was clingy though. He wanted to Skype multiple times a day, to text, to call. I just couldn't do that when I was the other side of the world, and he knew that. He knew where I was, and how busy I was. I was keeping busy, doing stuff with the people in my program, going on trips, and just generally having a great time. I didn't want to start a relationship with him, and I didn't think he would be a good match for me. <br><br>We kept talking, and I wasn't able to get out of it. Everytime I wanted to back out, he'd guilt trip me. "You're the only woman in my life right now, I'm thinking about you all the time" and I just couldn't back out. <br><br>I came home, and the constant messaging didn't stop. It just meant that I was expected to be available 24/7, because I was at home, and had no excuse not to talk to him. <br><br>I was already regretting saying yes, and I just wanted to get out of it. It was a bad decision, but I didn't know enough about him until we had started talking. <br><br>I confided in an old friend of mine. She had always liked him, but I didn't think she would ever end up with him. I told her about the problems I was having with him, and she had an idea. <br><br>She told me that if I wanted to be done with him, she would tell him I had been in an accident and died. <br><br>I was never going to see him again, I had no intention of talking to him again, and I just wanted to get out of it the easiest way I could. It was a shit thing to do, I faked my own death to get out of an online relationship. <br><br>I changed my social media settings, and just basically stopped talking to him. A few days later my friend told him what had happened, and he basically freaked out about it. <br><br>It had been about a year since I "died", and when I posted my birthday on a public social media account, he saw it. He was furious, and basically called me out on it. He said I had been a bitch and lied to him, and I just doubled down on it. <br><br>I told him that my friend had obviously been playing a trick on him, and that I had no idea why she would do something like that. <br><br>He didn't believe me, and I basically ended up blocking him. I haven't spoken to him in about a year now, and I've had no problems with him since I blocked him. <br><br>I know I did something shitty, but he was a clingy guy with no boundaries, and I had no idea fow to get rid of him.