Do women ever feel like they are just pretending to be an adult?

My dad and mom are immigrants. They are both naturalized Americans, but they held on to a lot of their traditional culture. My mom always cooked Chinese and I never saw her on my phone or use a computer. My dad was always involved in Chinese politics. They talked Chinese at home so I was not fluent in English until I was 6. What I am trying to say is that it feels like I am living in 2 different decades. Chinese culture is like… that if I don’t start making my own clothes by hand I am a failure. My parents both work until they are 60+ and own their own businesses. So there is a lot of expectations in other words.<br><br>Sometimes I feel like I am living in 1950 as a Chinese daughter. Like I need to make my own clothes, cook for my husband or I am a failure, etc…<br><br>But I am a student in modern-day America. I live in 2020. I need to keep up with the news. I have to be a good college student, and have a career. I need to learn to cook, because I don’t want to eat ramen and fast food anymore. I need to learn to drive (which is hard) and I need to get a driver’s license. I need to learn to be independent. I need to live like a 20-year-old human in the year 2020. I am not a Chinese daughter. I am a student. I am still learning to be a real adult.<br><br>Do women ever feel like they are just pretending to be an adult? I feel like I am a teenager pretending to be an adult. I don’t know how to do anything. I don’t know how to be a grown-up. I am 19. I feel like I just made a huge mistake because I reached 18 and I am now a grown-up. Like I need to get married now, I need to have a career, I need to have kids… I feel like a child. I feel like sometimes I am talking to my parents and I am a child in their eyes. I am still a little girl to them and they don’t see me as a woman.<br><br>So, do women ever feel like this? Like they are pretending to be a grown-up? Like they are living in 1950 and 2020 at the same time?