My bf is misunderstanding our issues

My (28) boyfriend (37) and I have had a lot of issues, so I sat down to write him a list so I can use it to explain things just in case an argument breaks out and my brain goes blank.<br><br>When I was finished, I had about 80 items on the list that I have issues with in our relationship. <br><br>He saw it and got mad and said it made him feel like he was being attacked. I asked him if he was ready to talk about it, and he said that he wasn't ready.<br><br>Then he said that he felt like I just sent him that list to be mean. I reassured him that it was to help me explain myself when we talked. I said I did not have any intention to attack him. Then added just because I see him as being in the wrong does not mean I see him as a bad person (which is why I drove home and plan on staying with him until this is sorted).<br><br>He keeps saying he is hurt and I am not showing him any empathy because I am calling him "wrong" and not seeing that I was trying to attack him. <br><br>He thinks that if I am calling him "wrong" then I am calling him a bad person. I went over the definitions of both words and how they are not the same thing, but he is not having it. He just keeps on saying I hurt him so I should be showing empathy.<br><br>He is a white, atheist, hetero male of privileged upbringing. I am a Black, Christian, queer, disabled, autistic woman of poverty level upbringing. It's so frustrating because he always plays the victim and I can never get past that hurdle.