AITA for telling my MIL that if she wanted a “trad wife” she should have married her kind of woman?

Background info: my husband looks at my as his partner, i do too. I have an other job and make a nice amount of money, the same as him. Our household ‘division of labor’ is pretty split in the middle: 50% me, 50% him. I cook more often but he is the one who goes to the supermarket. I change diapers more often but he touches poop more often because of his job. I have better people skills and he is physically stronger. We have an agreement for the chores etc that works for us but we always think about it as being able to adjust or change it if one of us needs that. We both work full time and have the same amount of work.<br><br>My MIL however is a SAHM. It is her choice. Her husband is a higher up manager etc and provider type, meanwhile she is in charge of their four kids, the house etc. She is proud of that and her husband is old-fashioned. Sometimes he talks like women are born to be stay at home moms (he is from a different country, completely different culture) and he is proud of women being homemakers. MIL is as well. They are not sexist in the way that they are against women working but they just think women women are the better choice as at home parents.<br><br>Anyway she has been mentioning how my husband should just let me be a stay at home mom for a while, or go part time, because i haven’t had a break for a while. But i am happy how it is. I don’t want to go part time or stay at home. I want to be able to have my own money, to be able to take my kid to the playground if i want to, to be able to give it to my husband if i need it, to be able to spoil my kid with a happy meal once in a while.<br><br>But she just keeps pushing on me to be a stay at home mom. To let my husband give me everything i need because he can afford it and he wants that for me.<br><br>So today she started talking about it again and how i should be a stay at home mom and i just told her that i am happy with my life the way it is, and that i am happy.<br><br>She said that i was missing out by working and that she was sorry that i don’t get to be at home, as a full time mom and wife, that i would be much happier.<br><br>I told her again that i am happy and i don’t feel like i am missing out on anything and that i like being a working mother because i can spoil my kid once in a while.<br><br>And she said that i missed the “feminine experience” and i just told her that she should have married a woman if he wanted a “trad wife”<br><br>She looked like i had slapped her and she left. Her son (my husband) texted to ask what was wrong and i told him what happened. He just said he would talk to her later and with that he meant that he meant she should leave me alone.<br><br>But she has been calling me a lot lately and i am trying to avoid her and i am feeling guilty.<br><br>AITA?<br><br>EDIT: i know some people are confused by me telling her that if she wanted a trad wife she should have married a woman. What i meant was more like: if u wanted a woman that stays at home and takes care of the kids then u should have married a woman that is happy to stay at home and be a wife. Not me because i am already married to ur son.<br><br>EDIT nr 2: for the people saying that i should let her help out and give her a chance, i have offered her to babysit multiple times and multiple times she has said no because she wants to spend time with us, not just the baby. Which would be fine if she got over the trad wife thing.<br><br>I’ve tried to talk to her before, we had a little sit down once and i told her that i am glad that she is proud of everything she does but that i am happy how it is and i dont think i should change myself for anyone else, and she said she understood. But she just kept pushing for trad wife after that.<br><br>I have always been nice to her even if she was being pushy, but at this point i am just over it.