My husband is trying to convince himself we don’t want kids, but that is not true
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I (31F) have never wanted kids for a million reasons, but my husband (29M) is a different story. <br><br>I have already accepted how I feel, but my husband is trying to convince himself he doesn’t want them. We have been together for 10 years now, and if I ask him straight up about kids he says he doesn’t want them, but I can see through him and he is lying. His face lights up anytime he is around kids, he is so patient, kind and gentle, loves babies and he generally has a child-like wonder that he hasn’t grown out of. <br><br>We cannot adopt nor foster, as we both have a history of mental illnesses and I have been told in the past that we should not have children for that reason, which is fair in my opinion. <br><br>I know he is trying to convince himself, as every time we have to talk about it he is angry and agitated, and straight up refuses to talk about it. It goes against everything he believes, as he is a Christian and he has been told that he needs to obey God in having children, multiple if possible. <br><br>It is tearing me up seeing him so unhappy and doing everything he can to try and convince himself otherwise. I have spoken to him about it, and he says that he does not want kids. But I know he does.<br><br>What do I do, as I know that if he has kids he’ll be super happy, but he is miserable if he doesn’t have them.
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