My wife [28F] keeps tying my boots after I've told her to keep her hands off of them. I [28M] tried to teach her a lesson and really hurt her feelings.

I very often go to my friend Brandon's house to hang out and play some board games or cards on the weekends. He's a good friend of mine, we've known each other for nearly 10 years.<br><br>One of things about Brandon's house is that he has a lot of sisters that still live with him. His youngest sister, Chelsie, always gets pissed off when I come over because she thinks that I'm being mean to her. <br><br>I'm not being mean to her. She has OCD and is nationally disabled. So when she sees me put my boots up on a chair, or set my drink on the coffee table, she'll often move them and reshuffle them because they're not "organized properly". <br><br>This has led to me losing track of personal items before (like my wallet or phone) because she moved them without me knowing. It's honestly very frustrating.<br><br>One of the things she's done that really annoyed me was that she unties and reties my boots. She thinks it's "neat" when my boots are tied and organized together. It's honestly not a big deal, but she's done this before and then I've had to untie and re-tie them before I leave. She thinks I'm being mean to her when in reality I'm just really confused and frustrated that my boots are already tied up after I specifically untied them.<br><br>Anyway, last week I went over to Brandon's house. Chelsie was there, as usual, and when I sat down, I propped up my boots on one of the chairs (the only empty chair at the table, and it was for a game called RuneQuest that we were going to play later that night). Chelsie was sitting on the floor and immediately came over and started to untie and re-tie my boots.<br><br>I got fed up and said something along the lines of "Oh, so you're going to keep tying and untying them until you get it just right, right? You're going to keep messing with my boots until you get them neat enough? Fuck off."<br><br>The table went silent. I don't know if I offended Chelsie or if Brandon thought that I went too far. She started to cry and Brandon said "Dude, chill." in a very stern voice. I told him to fuck off and left. Later on he texted me and said that Chelsie has been upset for days and that I should apologize to her.<br><br>I feel like she was in the wrong. She wouldn't leave my boots alone, and she knows that I don't appreciate her touching my stuff. So I think that I'm totally justified in being pissed off about this. Am I wrong?<br><br>Edit: Just to appease some people, I'll say that I wasn't shouting at her or being overly mean. My tone is very sarcastic, and when I said "fuck off" it was more in a sarcastic tone than a mean or angry tone. I wasn't trying to offend or hurt her feelings. I was just irritated and trying to make that known. <br><br>Also, I just want to say that I've tried many times to just ask her to stop and Brandon has even told her to leave my boots alone. I've been as patient as I can and as understanding and compassionate as I can. I don't think I was malicious or cruel towards her. I just want her to stop messing with my boots and personal belongings. Can we all just agree on that?<br><br>Edit 2: Holy shit this blew up. I wasn't expecting this many people to comment. Thank you all for your input and for your criticism. I'll definitely try to be more patient and empathetic in the future.