UPDATE: Wife(F33) and I (M34) decided to try for kids last year. Found out I'm completely infertile without surgery. 5 months later she got pregnant.

First, I want to thank everyone who read and responded to my last post. The comments and awards were so much support and I appreciate each and every one of you.<br><br>After posting I decided to just bring it up to her. I used a lot of what people said to make sure it was non accusive. I just said I was super excited for the baby and then I brought up the birth control thing and asked if she had an idea of when it would have run out. She immediately looked worried and burst into tears. I tried to help her calm and she eventually said that it had ran out 6 months ago. That's a month before the surgery. Which would mean that the kid is not mine. I tried to play it cool and told her we would get a test when they do the paternity test. And that if it's not mine I would still love the child and treat it as mine. She didn't seem comforted. <br><br>Fast forward to today. Got a call from my wife saying that the doctor wanted to speak to both of us and she couldn't come in. So I went. The doctor told me that during the check up today they found something concerning and wanted to do some extra tests. And that was that. A little worried I went home and once my wife got back I asked her what it was about. She said she didn't know. I don't believe that. A little bit after that my mom called me and said that my wife went to my folks place to talk. My mom said that my wife was crying the entire time and she seemed very scared. I'm super concerned at this point. <br><br>I think she may have been cheating on me and isn't telling me because she's afraid I'll leave her. Honestly I don't know what I'm going to do. More than anything I'm just upset she wouldn't tell me. I would be fine with adopting or surrogacy or anything to have a kid with her. She doesn't need to cheat on me to do any of those. Which is why I think there's more to it. Anyway. Just an update.<br><br>Edit: If people are still reading this I'll add a little more. It's been a few days since my last post. My wife started telling me about "what if I (husband) can't bond with the kid because I know it's not mine"? It's just the two of us herself included. And that's it. No other family. So if I were to leave there's no one else. And she has no savings. That's why she's scared to tell me. I've been trying to tell her that I'd be stupid to leave and I get that. But I want her to tell me so I can leave. Or not. I'm not sure anymore. <br><br><br>And to everyone suggesting adoption. We tried. It's a long process and we wouldn't be eligible for a long time. And even then it's not guaranteed. Surrogacy is not something you can do easily either. There's not many places that even do it. Not to mention it is incredibly expensive. Which we can't afford.<br><br>Again. I want to thank all of the support I'm getting. I really appreciate it.