AITA for not giving my brother the holiday dinner I made when he arrived late because I was "fuming and heartbroken?"

I f32 had intended to host my brother f45 and his wife f37 for the holiday this year. He called me at like 11pm the day before to “check in.” I asked him what time they were going to be coming over tomorrow and he said “yeah, about that, I was thinking it’d be better if we just drove up early that morning of and stopped by on our way home with just the kids.” I immediately knew what was going on, as him and his wife always do this: they will make plans like normal with me, but then at the last minute they will back out and have the kids come over while they go off to spend the holiday with his in-laws. It hurts me because it’s always like this, and these holidays are the only times I ever see my brother and his kids. (They all live several states away from me and I don’t have a car so I can’t travel to see them).<br><br>I asked my brother if he was kidding about this, and if he was doing this because of the dinner I had intended to make. He said “yeah, to be honest, we aren’t really fans of your cooking, and the kids like their grandmother’s food better.” So I basically just lost it and began yelling at him, hung up the phone and then blocked his number. <br><br>The next morning, I did end up making the food I had planned to make for them. It was like 700$ worth of ingredients to make a multi course dinner (4 courses), and I spent 13 hours making all of it. I was so upset that basically everything I had made was going to end up going to waste because I had no one to serve it to. I had no intention of saving the leftovers for myself. I was supposed to start this 13 hour cooking marathon at 7PM the night before, but because I was a wreck after my brother called me, I didn’t start making it until 10PM. <br><br>I was finally done at 10:30AM, and around 11AM my brother and his kids arrive. His wife isn’t with them. I’m surprised, as I wasn’t expecting them to actually come. I was fuming and heartbroken at seeing him and basically just told him to “get out.” I shut the door in his face after telling him that. It was like, 5 minutes later that his kids came to my door, crying. They said that their uncle was being mean to them and they didn’t want to be with him, and could they please stay with me instead? So I let them in and they basically just made themselves at home and started serving themselves my food like they owned the place. I told them to stop but they just ignored me. The food was intended to be a 4 course sit down dinner for my brother and his wife, and I had put my heart and soul into it.<br><br>They just started eating like vultures, and I didn’t even get to have one bite of the food I had prepared. I had never been treated like this before. I’ve never been mistreated by my niece and nephew before. I was livid, but then my brother showed up like 20 minutes after that with his wife. They said they had “forgotten” the address to my house and that’s why they were late. I basically just flipped out at all of them and accused my brother of thinking he could just bully and guilt trip his way into getting a free meal out of me. He got mad and said “hey, this dinner was for us, it’s our food. Don’t act like we owe you anything.” I’m like, “no, this wasn’t for you. This was for me. It was supposed to be a nice thing I could do for you and your family, but now it’s just a reminder of how hurtful and inconsiderate you are. This dinner was for me, and you stole that from me.” He says no, I made this dinner for him and his family. I’m like okay, fine, I’ll let you have the dinner, but this is the last straw. You’re dead to me from now on. Then I slammed my bedroom door and wouldn’t come out for the rest of the night. So they stayed without me and ate and then left. <br><br>I haven’t spoken to any of them since this happened. This was back in November, and my brother won’t stop calling/texting me that I’m being immature and need to get over this already. I said that I’m not going to be speaking to him again until he 1: apologizes and 2: understands that what he did was hurtful. He wants an apology from me.