Hey guys, if you're in the mood to dish some dirt, I'm happy to listen. NTA

I'm the ex boyfriend who dumped him on the mountain a while back and I remember some of you guys giving me advice from the comments. It was a pretty volatile situation and I think I'm getting some closure which is good but I'm curious if any of you actually knew him. <br><br>A bunch of things have happened since then and I'm probably more mature and less bitter now and I think I'm ready to share my side of the story. If any of you guys are interested in hearing a guy vent or shitpost, I'm happy to share and listen. I feel like this chamber is full of familiar faces and a lot has happened since then so I figure I'd share my story if you guys are willing to listen. <br><br>If you guys don't remember my post from last time, I'll give you guys a brief idea as to what happened. Resume: we were together for 3 years, our anniversary was coming up, he was going on a trip with his friends, and he dumped me on the mountain.<br><br>I never ended up speaking with him after that and I heard through the grapevine that he was dating again just a couple months later. I took that as a sign for me to move on and it was a huge relief honestly. We had a pretty toxic relationship in hindsight. He was someone who was in his 30s when I met him who still lived with his parents. He was overweight and had very few hobbies. <br><br>In all fairness, I was 19 when I met him and I had no idea what I was doing. I don't think I was all that good for him either but that's a story for another time. For my part in it, I took everything he said at face value. I assumed he was going on a trip with his friends for our anniversary because he was stressed and wanted some space. When he dumped me and said he was never attracted to me, I believed him. I spent a long time beating myself up over it. I was insecure about my weight and everything about myself so I internalized it. I felt inadequate and I hated myself.<br><br>I couldn't sleep the night I got news that he was seeing other people. I stayed up all night and I realized I was beating myself up for the wrong reasons. If he was already seeing someone else just a couple of months after he dumped me, then maybe I'm not the asshole in this situation. I realized he was never stressed. He was never planning on going on our anniversary trip with me anyway. He knew he was breaking up with me when we had sex the night before we were supposed to leave. He lied to me about being attracted to me. He lied to me about a lot of things. I realized this was never about me. I was too young and naive to see it.<br><br>I confronted him about a month ago when I saw his wedding announcement on Facebook. I was going to ignore it but for some reason, I don't know what came over me, but something about seeing him post about his new life with the love of his life hurt. I don't know what it was. I think it just felt like we never had any closure. It felt like he never had to answer for anything and I never got to confront him about anything. <br><br>I messaged him on Facebook and I told him I was happy for him. I told him I just had one question for him. All I asked him was why did he tell me he wasn't attracted to me? Why did he say that? I told him everything else was water under the bridge and I forgave him for it all. I wished him well and everything. All I wanted to know was why he told me he wasn't attracted to me. <br><br>He didn't answer. All he told me was that he was sorry but he blocked me. I never heard back from him. I think his new wife might have seen our exchange and she might have told him to do it but I'm not sure. I would like to think she's not like him but I don't want to project. I just know I'm doing well now and I'm happy. <br><br>I'm 22 now and I'm in an amazing relationship. I'm in college, I work out regularly, I have a lot of hobbies. I have a lot of friends and I'm not lonely anymore. I feel like a completely different person. I'm not the same guy I was three years ago and I don't recognize him. Looking back, everything makes sense and everything is so clear. <br><br>My point in saying all of this is that I'm doing well. I'm not the same insecure guy I was back then. I'm happy now and I've moved on. I think that's what he was afraid of. I think he was afraid I was going to move on with my life and I wasn't going to be the same insecure guy he met. I think he was afraid I was going to be better and he was right. I am better. <br><br>He didn't answer any of my questions but I think I have the answers anyway. I think he told me he wasn't attracted to me because he wanted to hurt me. I think he wanted to see me cry. I think he wanted to see me hurt because he felt like I was going to leave him. I think he felt like I was going to grow up and move on with my life and see other people and find someone better. I think he was right. <br><br>That's my theory anyway. I don't think I'll ever actually know but it makes sense to me. I think he was insecure and he wanted to hurt me because he thought I was going to leave him for someone else. He lied about everything. He lied about the trip. He lied about me not being attractive. He lied about a lot of things. I think he wanted to hurt me because he felt like he was going to lose me. <br><br>I hope life gives him the reckoning he deserves and I hope he's happy with the woman he's with. I wish him well. I think I've grown a lot and I think I'm a lot more mature now. I'm in a better place and I'm not as bitter as I used to be. I'm just glad I got to confront him even if it was a long time later. <br><br>If you guys have any questions or if you want to share then feel free. I'm happy to listen and I'm happy to share. I feel like this chamber is full of familiar faces and a lot has happened since then. I also might have some questions for you as well if you guys want to dish some dirt or whatever. <br><br>I'm doing well, I've healed a lot, and I'm in a good place. I hope he is too honestly.