I (34m) lost my job because of my wife (33f) and it's becoming a big problem.

Throwaway account because I don't want my wife to see this on my main.<br><br>I think I might be done with my wife after what she did cost me my job of eight years.<br><br><br>I work in the world of finance. I got my degree in it directly out of high school and ever since I was about 22 years old, I worked at a pretty large firm in New York. I was a financial advisor, which meant that I managed the finances of a lot of the firm's larger clients. I was good at it, although it took a lot of work and a lot of studying. I spent extra hours at the office. I studied all weekend. But it paid off because it was very lucrative, even as an entry level employee.<br><br><br>I met my wife at 26 and we got married a year later. We didn't have kids because I was trying to get to a point where I could provide for her in the way I knew she wanted. I knew she wanted to be a stay-at-home mom and I was willing to work my ass off to do that for her. I was doing pretty well. I had a good career path, a good salary, health and dental insurance for the two of us, a pension plan and a 401(k) plan. We were thinking about getting pregnant after COVID ended.<br><br><br>Well, COVID is still around but not as bad as it was. But we're not having kids because I just lost my job.<br><br><br>A week ago, my wife decided to get extensoins. I don't know why. Her hair was already long and pretty. But she wanted to have extensoins so she went to one of the more well-known salons in the city. I didn't really care either way. I just told her not to waste her money on it because it's not worth it in my opinion.<br><br><br>I was at work the next day when HR called me into the office. I didn't know why I was there but I thought maybe it was for a performance review. That would have been nice. But it wasn't. They handed me a complaint that one of our senior advisors had filed against me.<br><br><br>I read it. I almost couldn't believe it at first. I had no idea what any of it meant.<br><br><br>One of our senior advisors was at the same salon my wife was at. Apparently my wife told him I was after him and I was going to ruin his career. He said that I was making sexist and racist remarks about him.<br><br><br>The advisor in question is a very wealthy older man from India. He's known for having a bit of a temper but everyone in the firm knows not to mess with him. He's not very forgiving.<br><br><br>I had no idea what he was talking about. I told HR there was some kind of mistake. I haven't seen this man in person since before the pandemic. Then HR told me that they'd spoken to the owner of the salon and the owner confirmed what the advisor was saying.<br><br><br>I was floored. I told them that wasn't true. That the owner must have mistaken me for someone else. But apparently the owner remembered what I looked like because I'd come with my wife to her appointment.<br><br><br>I didn't know what to say. I was being let go. I couldn't believe it. I left the office building in a daze. I called my wife as soon as I was out of the building. She was quiet and wouldn't answer any of my questions.<br><br><br>When I got home, I explode at her. I couldn't believe she'd done that. I yelled at her and I admit that I called her some very unkind names.<br><br><br>She finally admitted that this was all her. She said the advisor had made a sexist comment towards her and she took it upon herself to get back at him. That I wasn't to worry because I'd find another job and I'd still support her like I promised. Then she got all dressed up and left the house to go out with her best friend.<br><br><br>I was so angry. I didn't sleep all night. I thought about leaving her but the anger was taking over the sadness so I decided to wait until I was feeling calmer. The next day, I went out looking for a job. It's not as easy as I thought it would be. I apply to about four or five places and I haven't heard back from any of them yet.<br><br><br>As my temper has started to calm, it's starting to feel like our marriage is dead to me. I don't know if I can ever trust her again. She's texting me and saying she wants to talk but I don't want to talk to her.<br><br><br>What are my next steps here? Should I get a divorce? I feel sodone and I don't think I can ever go back to the way I felt about her. Even if I can forgive her, I don't think I can trust her again.<br><br><br>TL;DR: My wife got me fired from my high-paying job of eight years so I could continue to support her.<br><br><br>EDIT: For those of you saying it has to be a misunderstanding: Stop. It's not. I know my wife and I know she'd do this. I'm not saying she's a bad person but she's done things like this before. She's not a bad person but she does things without thinking about the consequences.