What I think about loneliness and my solution.

I'm 38 years old single and it's been years since I've had any social interaction, real friends or even basic relationship. I've come to realize that there is no one to blame but myself, and now I have a specific plan to break out of this loneliness.<br><br>It's not going to be easy. The absolute opposite, in fact. To make a change, I will have to face my deepest insecurities, my shortcomings and I will have to be extremely honest with myself. I'm terrified. I'm scared and anxious about the outcomes, about what the future may hold. To face my fears head-on and work towards making a change in my life is the most terrifying thought for me.<br><br>However, I can't deny the fact that I feel completely empty inside, isolated and vulnerable. I've struggled with loneliness and depression for years, and it has taken a toll on my mental and physical health. I want to live a life where I can form genuine connections with others, where I can find happiness beyond mere survival.<br><br>The reason I'm posting this is because I want the people who also experienced the same thing to feel less alone. I want you to know that you're not the only one out there. If I can do it, so can you.<br><br>This is what I learned so far:<br><br>- MAKE A PLAN: I've started by outlining my goals and creating a roadmap for my recovery. Recognizing my weaknesses and breaking them down into smaller, achievable steps has helped me regain a sense of control and motivation.<br><br>- BUILD AUTHENTIC CONNECTIONS: I've joined social clubs and groups that align with my interests, allowing me to meet like-minded people. I try to avoid superficial relationships because they only provide temporary relief and often lead to further isolation.<br><br>- CULTIVATE DEEP RELATIONSHIPS: I've made a conscious effort to invest in a few meaningful relationships rather than trying to accumulate a large network of acquaintances. This has allowed me to develop trust, empathy, and a sense of belonging.<br><br>I'm still in the process. It's not easy. I've been isolating for years. It's terrifying. The fact that I'm acknowledging my fears, however, gives me courage to continue on the right path.