Why Is Sex Important?

Hello,<br><br>This is a question I have towards MGTOW's that is going to sound like I'm trying to get my feet wet in the Red Pill. If you're like me, you're here to learn. <br><br>I honestly have a hard time understanding why men put sex at such a high importance. I've been told by many men that if I want to keep a man happy in the relationship, I need to put out more. If I cannot put out more, I need to put out what I can when he wants it. <br><br>I understand the need for intimacy and that is not what I am referring to. I am talking about the importance men give to sex. I understand that men are wired to want to reproduce. I also understand that the need to reproduce is something we cannot control, and it is hard wired in us. However, I feel as though men put so much of an emphasis on it that they do not consider the needs of the women they are in a relationship with. I know I'm a woman, but hear me out. I feel as though men put sex at such a high importance that if you cannot meet that need, there is no reason for him to be with you. So many women that cannot meet that need are then shamed and humiliated for not giving it to them. And then the man will go on and cheat, or find someone that will meet that need.<br><br>I've been told by so many men, friends and not, that if I cannot meet that need, they will find someone that will. And that it is basic short in the relationship to want and have sex. I've even been told that I should never say no to my partner when it comes to sex. I've been told that I should always put out no matter how I feel. I should never say no, even if I do not want to have sex, I should suck it up and do it. <br><br>I feel as though the emphasis on sex is so important for men that they do not care about the woman's needs or wants. They do not care if we are happy in the relationship. They do not care if we want to have sex or not, they only care that their need is being fulfilled. I feel as though this is a major reason why so many men cheat. They do not consider the needs of their partner. They do not consider the consequences of cheating. They only care that their needs are met. <br><br>Don't get me wrong, I understand that sex is important. It is a need we cannot control, and that is fine. I also feel as though that need takes over a lot of men. So many of the relationships I see are centered around sex. So many of the relationships I see the man only cares about getting what he wants. He does not care about the woman he is with. He does not care about her feelings. He does not care about her needs. He does not even care if she is happy. As long as his sexual needs are being met, he has no need to worry about her, or care for her. <br><br>I know this isn't all men. I've met very good men, that are in relationships and are not like this. However, this is what I have seen in the relationships I have had. This is what I have seen in the relationships of those around me. Sex is the most important thing. If you cannot put out when he wants, there is no reason for him to be with you. And then they cheat and find someone that will put out for them. <br><br>I just have a hard time understanding why men put sex at such a high level of importance. Yes, I get that we as people cannot control the want for sex, but it seems as though that want overrules any other needs or wants. It seems as though men only care about their own needs being met. They do not care about the other person. They only care about what they want, and if they cannot get what they want from you, they will get it from someone else. <br><br>Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I appreciate your time and feedback.<br><br>Edit:<br><br>Thank you all so much for the feedback! I appreciate each and everyone one of you for taking the time to answer my questions and share your stories. I am not here to degrade or bash anyone. I am here to learn and support. I am sorry if I may have offended some of you.<br><br>I do not feel as though sex is a transaction. I feel as though men put sex at a higher importance than other aspects of the relationship. I know a man will not stay in a relationship if he is not getting what he needs. I understand the need for sex, and I do not expect a man to stay with someone who does not meet his needs. However, I feel as though men put sex at a higher importance than other needs. <br><br>I also do not feel as though women are above men. I know we both have needs, and we both have to feed each other's needs. I do not feel as though I am above a man, or that I should not have to meet his needs. I do not expect a man to meet my needs if I am not meeting his. I just feel as though there needs to be a happy medium. I feel as though there needs to be communication. <br><br>I'm sorry if I did not word this right. I'm just trying to understand.