In a divorce, the husband is the father, brother, brother in law, and uncle. But the wife is the victim

I was just talking to a coworker. I told her how I had a lot of respect for my ex wife. She worked hard at her job to take care of our boys. In fact, she worked herself into a nervous breakdown, then a suicidal depression. I thought it was admirable of her to make the boys a priority.<br>My coworker, a self described feminist said that I dont give myself enough credit. That I am the real hero for working a dangerous job, taking care of the boys, and cleaning the house all while my ex wife is away at treatment for mental illness.<br>I told her that the reason she is so in love with her husband is because of all the wonderful things he does for her and their children.<br>She told me that the mother is the head of the home, and the children learn from her how to be a person and member of society.<br>I told her that Im the one who taught the boys how to be men, and the father is the ones who teaches the children how to be a contributing member of society.<br>She said that the mother is the glue that holds the family together, the father is just a figure head with no power or function.<br>I told her that I was the father, brother, brother in law, and uncle. I was the only male figure in their lives. But the mom is still the victim in a divorce.<br>She said that the mother is always the victim because a man cannot be a victim. A man must always be a protector or face humiliation, shame, and ridicule.<br>I pointed out that it is also humiliating, shameful, and ridiculous for a woman to be promiscuous, unhappy, and overweight.<br>She said that those are just typical sexist things that men say to women.<br><br>I told her that I never said anything derogatory about a woman. I only pointed out how women think about men.<br>She told me that she doesnt think like that, and only radical feminists think like that.