AITA for telling boyfriend we can't live together until he learns how to clean up after himself?

Sooooo. basically we've been together for a number of months now (6 months) and I've been really trying to go the extra mile to make things work. He has a great sense of humor and is very kind to me and is very respectful and good-looking and I generally love his vibe and personality, it's been so hard for me to find someone I'm compatible with and feel happy with. <br><br>But, I have come to the realization very quickly that he is literally incapable of doing chores or cleaning up after himself or even taking care of himself, doing his own laundry, etc. <br><br>I currently live alone (thankfully) and up until recently he was never at my house. But now he's been spending more nights over and every time he's here he's leaving his dirty dishes and trash and dirty laundry everywhere. When I confront him about it and politely ask him to clean up after himself he looks at me like I'm crazy and tells me it's not a big deal and that he's "busy". I've asked him to clean his dishes after dinner and he will literally just say "I'm busy" and walk away. <br><br>I would honestly understand if he was like a really busy person but he's not, he works a 9-5 Monday through Friday and spends the majority of his time just playing video games. <br><br>So, last night I told him that we cannot live together until he learns how to clean up after himself. I even offered to buy him a Roomba for his house, but he got really mad and called me "entitled" and told me that I was being "too controlling". <br><br>I'm just lost here. Should I just accept that he cannot clean up after himself? I do not want to leave dirty dishes/disheveled messes for months on end because we're living together. <br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>Edit: <br><br>To answer some questions: <br><br>1.) He doesn't clean his own laundry currently and I do not do it for him. He takes it to a laundromat. <br><br>2.) I've told him that I will never do his laundry, cooking, or cleaning and he is okay with that. <br><br>3.) I've suggested we do a shared cleaning schedule and he does not like that idea. <br><br>4.) He is capable of doing chores and is physically able to. <br><br>5.) Yes, I've tried helping him out and being more empathetic and less critical of his messy habits. That has not worked. <br><br><br><br>Edit: I'm quite blown away by all the comments here. Thank you for your stories and advice and for sharing your own experiences dealing with this situation. It sounds like there is a lot of couples out there who are dealing with the same thing. <br><br>I'll update later once the situation has been resolved or not.