My (30M) wife (28F) did the "mariage" with my old crush

So my high school is a high school for 2 villages. I used to walk 15 minutes every morning and afternoon to get to school. It was a nice walk with a lot of friends. <br><br>In our village there is a bakery. When I was a kid I was in charge of buying the bread for my family to share with my cousins. <br><br>One day when I was 12 years old the baker had a new employee, a young girl of 15 years old who sold us the bread. She was a few years older than me so I had a big crush on her. <br><br>I continued to buy bread every day as it was my mission. I greated her, we talked for a while (for a kid of 12 it was the best thing ever) but one day she stopped working in the bakery. I didn't knew her name but she was the most beautiful woman I have ever seen ! <br><br>Fast forward to my 17 years old. I had my first girlfriend. I was in a good relationship, I didn't have any problems. We had 2 years of relationship and I was in love with her. She was really cute and was taking care of me.<br><br>One day as I was walking school, I saw the girl. She was "my first love" and I had a new crush on her. She told me she was working in the bakery again and that we can talk together every morning. I started to go every morning just to see her.<br><br>My girlfriend found out that I was seeing her every day. She was mad at me. I told her it was just friendship and that I had a crush on her when I was a kid. She asked me to avoid her to not hurt our relationship.<br><br>After some months the bakery was sold to a new owner and she wasn't working there anymore. I didn't knew her name. I thought I would never see her again.<br><br>When I had 23 years old, I was having a walk in my village and I saw her. Her parents have a shop and she was working there. I stopped and talked for 10 minutes. I asked her why she didn't gave me her phone. She explained she was 15 and that I was too young. She also said that she was in a relationship with a guy and that she was pregnant. We had a good chat and I told her to come to the bakery to buy some bread.<br><br>My girlfriend found out that I was talking to her. She didn't liked it. And she asked me to avoid her.<br><br>I moved to another city for work and met my wife. My girlfriend moved in another city too. <br><br>One day I decided to give a visit to my village. I was walking in the village when I saw the girl. We had a nice chat. She was divorced and I was getting married. It was a weird time to talk with her but we talked a lot. She explained me that she is working as a florist in the village.<br><br>I invited her to my wedding and she came to the wedding. It was the first time she was seeing me with my wife. She worked hard with the flowers and she made an amazing bouquet. <br><br>After 2 years I spent a weekend in my village. I was walking in the village when I saw her. She was with her flowers. I told her that I will pass her. She said no because it's my holidays and you are busy with your wife.<br><br>I went to the bakery and she was there with a lot of flowers. When I was paying the bill she stopped me and said that it's on the house. She said that she was happy to see my wife again and that she was happy for us.<br><br>Last week I receive a text from her and she tells me that she have a new dog. I congratulate her and she said that she wants to see me again. I told her I will pass her a visit next time I come to the village.<br><br>My wife is very serious. I told her the text and she is not happy. She is very jealous and she don't like the idea that I can be with her again.<br><br>I asked her to be less jealous and she told me that if I like the girl so much then I should be with her. She said that I love my wife with all my heart but that she can't trust me when I'm near her.<br><br>[Update] Ok I didn't expect that my post would blow up. I'm reading your comments. And I didn't knew that my post was so interesting. <br><br>The girl is not a fling or a side girl. She is just a unknown woman.<br><br>I didn't had a crush on her when I was with my girlfriend. I had a crush on her when I was in middle school. I had a crush on her when I was 17 years old and I had a crush on her when she was at the wedding. <br><br>I'm going to talk to my wife tonight to reassure her and I will stop talking to her.<br><br>And to those who say that my wife doesn't love me. She does. She is just jealous. And I don't understand your hate towards her. She is my wife and I love her. You are the toxic one in these comments. You are talking to her like she is a dog. Shame on you.<br><br>Also it's not weird for a French to ask the name of someone after 15 years. Most of us forgets the names and we don't know how to ask for it back. It's a cultural difference that I think is different in the US.<br><br>Ok so I talked to my wife and I explained her that she can't be jealous every time I talk to a girl. I explained her that I had a crush on her in middle school. I said that I didn't have any relationships with her and that I respect her. I told her that I am not a cheater. And I told her that I did the marriage with a lot of girls and I'm still friends with them<br><br>She is still sad. I want to go to therapy to work on her jealousy. And I told her that I will stop talking to the girl. <br><br>I'm going to therapy also because I don't want to loose my wife. I'm going to break up with the girl because I don't want to loose my wife.<br><br>You guys are right. If she goes to therapy we can solve the problem. If she doesn't want to solve the problem I don't know what to do.