AITA for not going outside with my GF because she doesn’t make me feel confident and loved

I’m 31 and my girlfriend is 29. We’ve been dating for only a few months, and she’s very particular about physical appearance. I don’t mind that at all. <br><br>When we’re out and about, she’ll always address if she thinks that there’s something off with my appearance. She’ll comment on my clothes, hair, even beard, or ask If I showered. Once she even asked if I was sure that I had brushed my teeth. I mean, it doesn’t bother me at all, but I don’t do anything to intentionally make myself look bad, and I don’t try to be attractive. I’m not a selfish person, I want to make her happy and look good for her, but sometimes I feel bad about myself, It makes me feel like I’m not loved and supported enough. In fact, I don’t really feel like I’m a priority to her at all. <br><br>She invited me to stay with her for the weekend at her parent’s house. She said she wants my company and she misses me when I’m away. I was happy that she invited me. I asked If I could come over on Sunday because I didn’t want to ruin her Saturday and wanted her to have time with her family. She said that was fine. <br><br>On Saturday she posted pictures with her family. Every time she posts a selfie with her, I just look at it and feel like I’m the only one she doesn’t love. It makes me depressed. In the selfie, she was with her family, and her mom was hugging her and it feels like she was prioritizing them over me. I’m sure she wasn’t doing it intentionally, but sometimes I feel bad because I don’t have that with my family. My mom died when I was 6 and It was only me and my dad, and he died when I was 17. I was an only child and didn’t have any siblings. My Gf doesn’t have that with her family either because her brother died in a car accident when she was 19. <br><br>I planned on going over to her on Sunday morning but then the plan changed. I told her I wasn’t going and said it was better if I stayed home. She asked me why I didn’t want to come over but I couldn’t tell her the truth because my brain froze and I couldn’t tell her that she made me feel unloved and unappreciated. I could only tell her that I didn’t want to come over anymore and she was upset. <br><br>She said I had made her wait, or at least I made her parents wait and It was nice to have me company for a while with her family, but It seems that I never meant to come and they were foolish to expect me. She then said she didn’t have any time for me anymore and It was better If we parted our ways. I tried to convince her that I would still come over but she didn’t want to hear it and said I was already too late to fix this, and I was the one who said I wasn’t coming over so I better follow through with that.<br><br>I asked my friend and he said I was TA. He said I was wrong to flake on her and I only did it because I feel bad about myself. I asked my cousin and she said I was NTA but some people who were in the comments said I was TA and that I couldn’t expect her to love me unconditionally.