My girlfriend doesn't like oral. It's killing me.

I (23M) am dating the most wonderful girl, Samantha (23F). She's gorgeous, smart and has an amazing personality. We've been dating for 3 months and decided to take our relationship to the next level. <br><br>Samantha has been sexually active for a long time and I am her 4th partner. <br><br>I (23M) have never been in a relationship (because somehow I always managed to be rejected by the girls I asked out) and only had sex a few times with a girl I met on tinder. <br><br>We've been sexually active for about a month now. The first time I asked her to go down, she told me that she gives oral sex only on special occasions and that we should stop focusing on what she doesn't like to do and start focusing on all the things that she does. She's always willing to have sex and kinks (within the realm of the normal) and she never says no to sex. <br><br>Here's the thing , I miss going down on someone. I miss the intimacy and the pleasure of pleasing someone, I miss that connection. <br><br>I've tried talking to her, but it's always like talking to a wall. She's not willing to compromise. <br><br>I've read that when you're in a relationship, you need to compromise and accept the things you can't change. However, I think that this is not something I should ignore because it's an important part of intimacy and a part of my needs. <br><br>How can I approach this subject without sounding selfish and uninterested in her other qualities?<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>Edit: I am clear that asking her to do it isn't the solution. I am asking how to approach the subject.