My wife, 31, faked a pregnancy and miscarriage for sympathy and now I think our relationship is unsalvageable.

I put this in a rant chamber as well, but I thought I'd get some thoughts from you guys as well.<br><br>I'm 28 years old and I've been with my wife for 10 years (married 4 years). We have a little girl together, 8, and my wife has been trying to get pregnant again for the last 2 years, which is hard on both of us and our relationship. <br><br>My wife and I are very close, best friends, and we have been able to communicate without any issues, so I was surprised when she told me she was pregnant. It completely came out of nowhere and I wasn't even sure if she was actually pregnant and not just saying that she was. I asked her to take a pregnancy test and show me the results that it was positive, and she did. I trusted her, and I trusted the results from the test enough to fully believe her.<br><br>She was excited, we were both excited. We told our daughter, told our families and friends. We wanted to wait for the 3 month mark to really start telling everyone, but it's hard when everyone else is excited to congratuate you. <br><br>She claimed to have her first OB appointment and she seemed fine. She was only 6 or 7 weeks at that time, so nothing was expected to be seen. She kept up with the appointments for a couple of weeks, and then she claimed to have miscarried. She claimed to have taken a pregnancy test and it was negative. We sat down and had a discussion about it, where I asked about going to the doctor to get confirmation of the miscarriage (obviously she didn't trust me enough to trust the results from the test). She said she hated the idea of going to an appointment just to confirm and wanted to move on from it. She added that she was feeling really depressed and sad, and I just wanted to be supportive. So I never pushed further about it and just decided to be supportive and comforting of her. <br><br><br><br>It wasn't until she tried to get sympathy from my ex that I started questioning her pregnancy and started putting more thought into it. My ex and I are still friends and we are still in contact. She'll occasionally come over to the house to drop something off or hang out and visit our daughter. My wife always had a issue with her but she got over it when she realized she wasn't going anywhere. So when my ex called me to check in on my wife and ask about the miscarriage, I was a little confused and asked what she was talking about. She told me she thought my wife would've told her if she was actually pregnant. And thats when I realized my ex was right. Something was weird. My wife was talking about a pregnancy to EVERYONE but my ex, her best friend, never got a word about it. I brought this up to my wife and she claimed she never told my ex because she doesnt trust my ex and thinks she'll go behind my wifes back to tell me that I shouldve been with her instead. My ex and I had a long relationship (4 years) and my wife has always been jealous that I was in a relationship with someone before her. She tried to use that against me to make me think that there was a problem with my ex, not her. But it didnt work. There was a problem now. <br><br>I asked her to go to the doctor with me, to confirm and prove to me that she was actually pregnant and miscarried. She got defensive and angry with me. And thats when I knew she was lying to me. She started trying to manipulate me with guilt and anything she could think of. I gave her the ultimatum of going with me to the doctor in the next couple of days or I would end our relationship. And the next day, she admitted that she lied, she never got pregnant, she never even took a pregnancy test. She has no idea why she lied to me about it when I directly asked her to confirm it, but she said she's sorry and she cant change it. I told her that I cant trust her now and she said she understands that I need time and space, but I need to understand that our relationship is more than a lie, and she needs time to think about if she can stay married to me. I guess I am just venting a little now, but this literally came out of no where and I dont know what to do now.