My husband (M34) has thrown me (F28) under the bus

I’m in desperate need of advice. I’m on mobile and have a baby sleeping on me, so please bear with me as this will likely be rambly. <br><br>My husband, husband’s sister and her husband (collectively referred to as the in laws), and I went to a tapas restaurant for my bday. The restaurant was a tad fancier than what we normally go for- in the US, pretty expensive, $40-$50 entree. We get there, and there’s a 30 min wait for our table. We tell the host and she says she’ll call us in 30 mins, so we hop out of our car and onto the sidewalk in front of the restaurant to wait. 15 mins or so pass, and a gentleman in his 50’s comes out of the restaurant and approaches us. He is the owner. He is extremely friendly, introduced himself, and makes small talk- asking why we’re there, how long we’ve been waiting, etc. My husband and I both work with the public, him as a teacher and me in healthcare, so I’m very big on being kind to others- everyone from janitorial workers to bosses get treated with respect and dignity. So I make an attempt to make conversation with the owner, answering his questions and asking him a few in return (like how long he’s been there, how many restaurants he owns, etc). <br><br>He finishes making small talk and gets around to saying that the area we are standing in is technically private property, and that we are not allowed to be Loitering on their sidewalk. He says that he doesn’t want to call the police on us (we are all 28 and up, we’re all very well-behaved, not causing any commotion), but we need to leave the premises and come back in 15 mins when our table is ready. <br><br>Here’s where the problem starts: my husband and the in laws act as though he kicked us out, and start making (very whispery and subtle, but clear to an auditory person like myself) snide remarks about the owner and the restaurant, and how we shouldn’t have come here. They start making their way to the car, and I start to follow. I stop and turn around and say, “You know what, I’m just gonna stay and wait for the table. I can call you all when it’s ready and you can come back.” I turn around to walk back to the sidewalk in front of the restaurant, and my husband comes after me and says, “No, if we’re leaving we’re all leaving together.” And I say, “I thought the table was ready for my birthday? I thought that’s why we came here.” And he and the in laws make their way back to the sidewalk. Now, this is where it REALLY starts to go wrong: my husband tells the owner that we are not going to be eating there after all, and thanks him and walks away. The owner is clearly shocked, as we had just made our reservation there for my birthday, and tries to ask what’s going on. And to my absolute HORROR, my husband says, “She (points to me) wants to eat here.” Like, to me that comes across as, “make her get the table, I don’t want to eat here, but SHE wants to.” <br><br>The owner and I both look at him like he’s crazy, and I try to explain to the owner that we were going to leave and I was going to stay and wait for the table, but we all ended up staying after all. And the owner is clearly very confused. But we get sat at our table and orders are taken and everything’s fine. But I am in absolute awe that my husband tried to make it seem like forcing another table because *I* wanted to stay. I go to the bathroom to wash my hands and I step outside for a second to call my husband’s mom and tell her what happened. I get back to the table and the in laws are giving me the silent treatment, and my husband looks like he’s in a mood. I ask him what’s up and he says I embarrassed him in front of all these people and humiliated him. I try to explain to him that I think he’s being overly sensitive and that it was all a huge miscommunication. I tried to explain that I was making an attempt at conversation, but he interpreted it as embarrassing him. I told him had I known it was going to cause this reaction I would never have spoken to the owner at all, but that I didn’t think there was anything wrong with making an attempt at conversation like that as we do with everyone else. I asked if the in laws were mad, and he said that they’re upset too. I asked what specifically I did to embarrass him and upset the in laws, and he said, “you can’t just talk to people like that, it makes us all look like weirdos.” <br><br>Now, I think it’s critical to mention here that I am *very* outgoing and sociable, while my husband and his family are all on the more introverted/rude (idk if they’re all technically introverted but my husband and his sister can come across as standoff-ish and rude to others, in my opinion). They all think I’m a weirdo for being so outgoing and trying to make conversation with random people we meet, and my husband has told me that he’s embarrassed by that. But that’s just my personality, and I can only be myself, right? <br><br>This has been a recurrent issue in our marriage, and now it’s causing a huge fight and the in laws are pissed at me too.<br><br>UPDATE: Thank you to everyone who commented, you all helped me feel a little better and clarified what happened a bit. I did a bit more digging and it turns out my husbands sister stormed inside the restaurant and asked to speak with the manager, (who was the owner we spoke to outside) and told him that they were leaving because of the way I was treated. Apparently the owner tried to explain it wasn’t like that at all, and she wouldn’t listen. So the owner was a bit irritated with me when I came in to explain my side of the story. Also keep in mind I was a bit flustered and emotional, so I’m realizing now that I did not recount everything perfectly. Anyway, I had a lengthy conversation with my husband and I showed him all of your comments, and he apologized to me and admitted it was all a big miscommunication. He also apologized for not sticking up for me and making me out to be the bad guy.