I'm (36F) unsure what to do about my husband (39M) after our dog died
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I've never used Chambers before but I'm searching for some outside insight. I've been with my husband for eight years and married for five. He is absolutely the love of my life and I've always been head over heels for him. I'd do anything for him and I'd jump through fire for him, but here's my problem. <br><br>Last week our dog, who I got about six months before I met my husband, died unexpectedly. He was young (4 years old) and we were told he would be fine after a massive allergic reaction, but he unexpectedly went into a coma and didn't make it. The few days after were very rough and he's made a full recovery, but it was really hard watching him go and I wasn't ready, and I'm not. <br><br>I'm absolutely devastated. I've been crying nonstop since we found out our dog passed. My husband has been absolutely amazing through it all and has been a rockstar. He's made all the arrangements, cleaned out our dog's stuff, and has been incredible with me. <br><br>The problem is, I'm still completely broken and devastated, and he's completely moved on. I guess I understand, he was ready for our dog to pass, and he was a lot older than me when he got him. But I'm just still in shock that he is gone and I can't bear the thought of living without him. It's like my husband flipped a switch and that's it, the dog is gone. It's insanity. <br><br>He's being so sweet and caring and supportive to me, but I just can't help feeling like he doesn't realize the severity of the situation. I want to hold him and just cry about it, and just have him sit with me and be there for me. But he doesn't seem to be feeling the same way I do, he's more like "I'm here for you, but I'm making plans because life goes on". He never even cried! He's just completely moved on to the next thing. I don't know what to do. <br><br>Has anyone ever heard of anything like this? I want to be there for my husband and support him, but I just don't understand why he isn't grieving more. He was absolutely in love with the dog. I'm just so heartbroken and I don't know what to do. I'm really struggling to be strong for him and come to peace with this situation. <br><br>TL/DR: My dog recently and unexpectedly passed away, I'm devastated and my husband is being very supportive, but he isn't grieving at all. He seems to have moved on to other things. I don't know what to do.
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