When did this chamber become so political?

I’ll give a super brief background on myself so it doesn’t seem like I’m being overly judgemental. I’m a (hetero) woman in my early 20s and I lean very heavily to the left politically. I’m a classic “Zoomer” - more socialist than capitalist, pro-LGBTQ+, etc. I’ve been on this website for some time now, and I always thought it was great that this community existed. This website certainly seemed like a haven for women like me - chubby, fat, and in love with our curves.<br><br>I don’t really need to mention that women and women in the LGBTQ+ community are *incredubly* underrepresented in media and in society. And for good reason, as petty as it is. Society is, like it or not, heavily sexist and misogynistic. Women, especially those in the LGBTQ+ community, face an incredible amount of backlash and societal hatred. I wholeheartedly believe that as the world is as it is, we should have communities like this that celebrate the beauty of women who may not get the same attention as more “conventionally attractive” women. <br><br>Maybe this is just me, but I’ve always loved chubby women. I’ll get to this later, but for me, it’s a fetish I both appreciate and celebrate. I always thought this was a great, safe space for women like myself to be themselves, unapologetically and without judgement. I never once felt like this community existed to fetishize or belittle women, but rather, it was a community of people celebrating their beauty and great confidence. I never felt like this community fetishized women - rather, it celebrated the beauty of women in all shapes and forms. <br><br>I’m not sure exactly when this started, but I’ve noticed a huge influx of “I love big girls because they are so confident [insert soft cock[js here].” It seems like there are more and more posts like these by the day, and I have to admit, I do not like this trend. I wholeheartedly believe that chubbier women can be confident, but they also face a huge amount of societal backlash and scrutiny. Confident women are great, but they aren’t the only praiseworthy women out there. Women who are chubby and less confident also deserve appreciation and love, but that’s not what I’ve been seeing in this subreddit.<br><br>I also think this trend is limiting. I’ve always thought that the women in this community were beautiful for many reasons, not just their confidence. I’ve always thought that chubby girls are beautiful because of their curves, because they are stronger than society can ever imagine, because they have big hearts, and because of a multitude of reasons. I don’t think it’s fair to the women who are a part of this community to limit them to one characteristic only. <br><br>I also find it problematic if we begin to fetishize women because of their confidence. Confidence is important, but it’s not something that should be fetishized. I don’t think women should ever feel like they owe it to anyone to be confident. I believe women should be confident for themselves, and not to satisfy someone else’s fetish or needs. I also don’t think that confidence is something that should be fetishized, much like how I believe bodies shouldn’t be fetishized. Rather, this should be a celebration of the beauty of women. I’ve always felt like if I posted in this chamber and said something like, “OMG I love chubby girls because of their curves and strength,” I would be judged harshly and told I’m fetishizing. And yet, when people post the exact same thing about confidence, no one bats an eye. <br><br>I don’t want this chamber to turn into a fetish, as opposed to a celebration of women. I think that’s disrespectful to women. But I’m not sure what to think anymore, or even where I fit in this community. <br><br>TL;DR: I feel like this chamber has turned into a fetish, as opposed to a celebration of women. I feel like there are a lot of posts about how confident women are attractive, but this seems like it fetishizes women rather than celebrates them. I feel like this is limiting and problematic to women.