My (17f) friend (17f) said a racist thing to my (17f) cousin (17m).

My (17f) friend (Chloe) said a racist thing to my cousin (Eitan). I don’t know what to do, and my family is getting really mad at me. Chloe said something along the lines of “We can’t date because there’s no way your parents will allow a white girl to date their son”. Eitan isn’t mixing up the races because he’s not going to date a girl he doesn’t like, he’s just being picky. Eitan isn’t into most of the girls I’ve seen him end up with, so I don’t think he would choose a girl based on race.<br><br>Chloe’s comment came out of nowhere. They were in my dorm’s living room, just talking about how it’s been too long since they’ve hung out, and Chloe said something about how she’d hoped they could be together (They did date for like a month when they were 14). I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it, because of course they could have dated, but Chloe’s comment like that was so off-hand and out of nowhere. Eitan said something like “No, I just haven’t found a girl I like yet, but thank you for the compliment” or something like that. Chloe said that her friends had warned her that his family was against interracial relationships, and I told her that wasn’t the case.<br><br>My issue is that my family is getting in my face about it. They’re saying that Chloe said that because she knows me, and I said something racist that made her feel comfortable enough to say that. They’re saying that Eitan told her that he wasn’t allowed to date outside of our race, and that’s why she said what she did. I don’t think that’s the case, since Eitan’s told me he doesn’t mind dating outside of our race. He was in a relationship with a girl that was black, and they’re still friends. I don’t think Eitan told her that because he already has experience outside of our race. But my family is convinced it’s my fault for making Chloe feel like that’s okay.<br><br>I know Chloe didn’t mean to say what she did, and I don’t think it was meant to be racist. She’s not racist, she’s been around people of other races without a problem. I don’t think she’s racist, she was just trying to come up with a reason why Eitan and her weren’t together and didn’t think about what she was doing when she said it. But my family is bringing this up constantly, and I don’t know what to do. They’re not listening to me when I tell them that Chloe isn’t racist, they just think I’m defending her because I’m racist too. I don’t know what to do. I know Chloe isn’t racist, I’ve been friends with her for like five years and she’s never said anything racist. I don’t think this was meant to be racist, it was just a bad choice of words. But my family is convinced that Chloe is racist, and that I’m racist too because I’m defending her.<br><br>I don’t know what to do. I want to wait until my family calms down a little before I do anything, but I don’t know how to help Chloe and Eitan. I feel like I’m caught in this argument between Chloe and Eitan, and I don’t know how to stop it. I don’t know how to convince my family that Chloe isn’t racist, or how to help Chloe and Eitan repair their relationship. I don’t know what to do.<br><br>Edit: I am not racist, neither is Chloe or Eitan. Chloe is actually from an island with people of several different races, and Chloe’s race is biracial. She’s said racist things in the past just as jokes, but only jokes that are about race as a whole. Not targeting one race.<br><br>Also, I’m not the one Chloe said this to. She said this to Eitan, and Eitan told his family. My family told me.