My response to “I want kids but I don’t want to take care of them”

I saw a post last week (im going to paraphrase) a woman said she wanted kids but she didn’t want to take care of them. <br><br>Her reasons were <br><br>1. She wanted to experience the pain of what her mother went through for her. So she could appreciate her mother’s sacrifices.<br><br>2. She wanted to see herself age.<br><br>3. She wanted to experience motherhood and to see if motherhood would change her outlook on life. She said she’s cold and emotionless as a person, and wanted to see if having kids would change her.<br><br>But that she didn’t want to take care of her kids. Apparently she has tons of extended family that would take care of the kids while she continues to go on with her life.<br><br>Anyways I just wanted to lump these concerns in one place. So here it is. <br><br> - No sane woman would rather go through labor than not. I don’t care what anyone says. There is no sane reason to go through that. I think the only woman who’d really want to go through that is Rachel from season 1 of the bachelor. I doubt she’d be on this sub though because she’s not childfree.<br><br>- you can still watch yourself age if you’re childfree. Kids don’t keep you young. In fact having kids makes you look older. <br><br>- a lot of people do change once they have kids. But being a hands off parent still isn’t a good idea. Hands off parents are the worst because it sends an extremely confusing message to the child. At least abusive parents are consistent in their parenting.<br><br>- also literally no mother changes their outlook on life once they have kids. You’re not gonna magically become a better person once you have kids. You’re still gonna be the same person. Having kids is a life changing decision, but it doesn’t change our core personality.