I cancelled my husband's entire 40th birthday celebration and it felt amazing

My husband is turning 40 in a few weeks and I had been planning a huge milestone birthday party for 3 months. It was going to be so much fun!<br><br>We chose a venue, hired a live band and caterer, bought alcohol and all the fixings for a party of this magnitude. I invited family and a ton of friends and even made a Facebook event just for the party. Everything was set.<br><br>Until my husband and I had a huge fight.<br><br>He had to go out of town for 4 days for a work conference and left last Wednesday night. We both agreed he should quarantine for 4 days when he gets back because of COVID and I was OK with that.<br><br>On Friday at 1:30AM I get a text from him saying he's coming home and will quarantine in the basement. <br><br>I was furious. I called him and asked him why the hell he was leaving the conference and coming home because he was supposed to stay until Sunday. He said he was sad and missed me and the kids.<br><br>I told him that he was putting everyone I love in jeopardy by breaking quarantine and he didn't care. He said he'd be home at 3:30AM. I flipped out and told him do not come home, go back to his hotel. He said he was already on his way.<br><br>I did something I've never done before - I just up and left. I called a friend who was also quarantining and said "I'm dropping off my kids. Be there in 20 minutes."<br><br>The kids were sleeping and had no idea what was going on, but I left a note on the kitchen counter for my husband. "You violated quarantine and put your family in danger. I'm taking the kids to (friend's name) and we won't be back until you leave."<br><br>My friend and her family were shocked when I showed up but they let us in and they were so great and gracious and took us in without a second thought.<br><br>I called my husband the next morning and told him I was filing for divorce and that we needed some time and space apart. He begged me to come home but I said no. He told me he was leaving the city but I didn't care.<br><br>On Saturday I cancelled the caterer and the band. I cancelled the venue and called everyone who was invited to the party and told them it was cancelled. The party is officially off.<br><br>The kids and I ended up staying with my friend for 3 days until my husband left town. We had so much fun at her place - 3 kids, plus my 2 kids. It reminded me of when I was a kid and would have sleepovers with all my friends and we'd have a blast.<br><br>I got home Sunday afternoon and the house felt empty. There was no one there. It was sad.<br><br>But yesterday I went to the store and bought a ton of fresh groceries and started to clean the house. I went into the basement and took out the vacuum and cleaned it. I washed all the sheets and blankets and cleaned every room. It felt amazing.<br><br>Yesterday I texted my husband and told him I hadn't filed for divorce yet but was thinking about it. He said please don't saying he didn't mean to scare me or put me in danger.<br><br>I told him I'm done. He's put his needs in front of ours for the last time. I'm so over him and his entitled bullshit. I've had enough.<br><br>My kids were sad the party was cancelled but I told them we'd have so much fun this week and I'd plan something even better for when this was all over. My son said "will daddy be there?" And I said "I don't know." <br><br>Who knows what the future holds. I do know one thing though - I feel amazing. I feel so empowered and strong. I will do whatever it takes to protect my babies.