How am I supposed to do anything when they won't even do anything for themselves?

I have never been in a relationship before, because I do not trust anyone. That's what makes this situation even more puzzling. I've only been in this relationship for about a month, which has been the most turbulent month of my life. I don't even understand where to begin with this, but I need to get it out somehow. I feel so fucking dejected by the whole thing. So let me explain.<br><br>The couple we go to for advice is always saying that the relationship is 50/50, so that's how I try to view it. The woman I'm with is so lazy. How can I get her to do anything when even the people we go to for advice are telling me that she's the only one who can change herself, that I should just let her do things on her own. But then they will say that if she's not doing this, or isn't doing that, then you're doing 100% of the relationship and she's doing none of it. That's why I just fucking hate them, because it's all contradictory nonsense that's messed up my whole view of the world.<br><br>However, the woman I'm with won't even do anything for herself. She won't even do her own chores, or clean up after herself, or eat well, or exercise. She even says that she's the laziest person on earth, and she seems proud of it. I don't understand, I don't want to do everything for her. I feel like I'm being taken for granted.<br><br>I have to do everything for her, and do everything for myself. It's not even a relationship. It feels like I've adopted a child, and I'm having to clean up after her and do things for her because she won't even do anything for herself. I don't want to do this anymore, but I don't know what to do. I feel like a fucking deject because of this.<br><br>I don't know if maybe she's just trying to use me or something, but I don't want to be in this situation anymore. I don't know if I should even be with her at all. I feel like I'm just a fucking dog to her, like she doesn't care about me at all. I don't know if maybe I should just move out, and get my own place. How the fuck am I supposed to know what to do in this situation? I HATE WOMEN. I HATE WOMEN. I HATE WOMEN.<br><br>EDIT: Oh my fucking shit, you guys are truly great, and I appreciate all the advice you've given me. That couple is just so unhelpful, and I'm glad there are people out there who actually give a fuck. Thank you all so much, it really means a lot to me.