AITA for not paying a child to help me with their special needs eidetic twin?

To throw a lot at you at once: I (43M) have 13 year old identical twin boys, Green (6th Grade) and Javelin (6th Grade). We love them very much and have a good relationship with them.<br><br>Javelin has extreme special needs, including being non verbal, physically disabled, and total loss of bodily autonomy. He is also extremely cognitively disabled. We have a very hard time connecting with him socially (and have given up trying) but we put a lot of effort into making sure he is as comfortable as he can be.<br><br>Green is the complete opposite. He’s an eidetic twin meaning he’s extremely smart, has an excellent memory and social skills, and academically gifted. He is also extremely close with his brother. He always wants to be involved in helping Javelin and spends all of his free time with him.<br><br>I am a SAHD. I take care of the house and the boys because my wife makes a fortune running her own business. I am the primary caregiver and have a hard time keeping up with Javelin. Not because I am mean, but because it is extremely hard to take care of him and I get tired. I get help from my older children (16M, 17M, 22F) but they have lives and can’t always help.<br><br>Green asked to be paid for the extra housework he did and asked how much he would get paid to help me for a few hours with Javelin a week. He wants a job at the mall (to learn social skills) and is trying to save money to buy himself a laptop for school. I told him no. He is 13 and I don’t think he should be getting paid for helping with his brother. <br><br>He got pissed and went to tell my wife I wouldn’t pay him. She told me that I should pay him. I told her no. <br><br>So I am here. AITA for not paying my son to help me with his brother for a few hours a week?