My boyfriend is an extreme saver and I am feeling really resentful

My boyfriend and I are in our mid-30s and have been together for a year and a half. We have almost identical incomes and we both work as remote software engineers. We have very different spending habits, however, and he is extremely frugal. He has no problem with me spending money on certain things, but I am starting to feel more and more resentful that he is not willing to spend money ever. <br><br>For example, we used to live together in a small studio apartment but I got tired of it and asked if we could move to a 1 bedroom. He was extremely reluctant but eventually said yes. I was thrilled thinking it would be a huge step for him but he proceeded to move us into a condo that was the cheapest one bedroom we could find. I even offered to pay more in rent if we could live in a nicer place and he said no.<br><br>Whenever we go out he always wants to go to the cheapest restaurant possible. If we are at a restaurant and I want to order an appetizer he willAsk me if I’m sure I want to get one and tell me that it’s a waste of money. He will not go to nice restaurants with me. The only time I was able to convince him to go to a nice restaurant with me was for my birthday. <br><br>I am really tired of going to low-end chain restaurants. It’s starting to feel like I can’t go to the places I want to go and I’m just along for the ride because I don’t make enough money to do anything on my own. He also doesn’t really want to travel. I finally convinced him to take a short weekend trip to another city a couple of hours away. I have always wanted to go to Europe but he was unwilling to go until I offered to pay for the entire trip. Even though he was only paying for himself I still had to compromise on where we stayed and what we did. He wouldn’t even take a taxi at the airport when we arrived.<br><br>I feel so resentful about his unwillingness to spend money. I work really hard and I don’t think it’s fair that I am limited to cheap restaurants and cheap vacations because he doesn’t want to spend money. I feel like he is taking away my freedom to make my own choices about how I spend my money and I’m also starting to resent him for not wanting to experience the things I want to experience. We have millions of dollars in savings because we are so frugal. Why do we need to be like this? <br><br>TLDR: My boyfriend is extremely frugal and I am tired of always going to the cheapest places and doing the cheapest things.