My wife threatened to divorce me because I didn't get my dick cut off. Now it's over

I hope you're sitting down. This is hard to believe. Three years ago, because of my divorce lawyer-assuring me it was a low risk, I got a vasectomy. I didn't want kids, neither did my wife. We were both on the same page as far as that was concerned. This was three years ago, when I was 35. <br><br>So, the other day it's my wife's birthday. I plan a nice dinner. As we start eating, she tells me she's pregnant. I thought she was kidding. I wasn't. And she wasn't. <br><br>I was confused. I asked how this was possible. And then she told me the truth. It was my buddy, Dave, from work. She'd been having an affair with him for three months. <br><br>She said she needed someone manlier and more traditionally masculine, someone who was willing to give her a family. I told her "well, I guess you got what you deserved". That did not go over well, as you can imagine.<br><br>And then she said something I will never forget, as long as I live. "If I'd known I was going to marry a coward, I would have married a woman." <br><br>I grabbed my shit and left. I won't be seeing her again. I want to make it clear here, I did not deserve this. <br><br>There is no reason for your partner to cheat. I've been told by multiple people close to me that this is 100% on her, and that I should feel no guilt. It still stings, though. I keep wondering if there's something I could have done to prevent this. But thinking about it too much just makes me angry. When I'm angry, I drink, and I don't want that. <br><br>So, what now? I'm back living with my parents. I'm staying here until my divorce is finalized, which my lawyer assures me will not be a problem. We had a prenup. She won't be getting shit, and she damn well knows it. <br><br>What I've realized most prominently through all of this is that the legal system is stacked against men. Even though she cheated, I still will have to pay child support. And I'm going to have to pay it for a kid that is not mine. <br><br>My wife has made it clear she never wants me back. She hates me, and she'll do anything to make sure I pay for what she sees as my "failures as a husband". <br><br>The system is fucked up. And, for most of my life, I refused to see it. I was delusional. I thought, because of my naivety, I'd be the exception rather than the rule. I thought that, if I just treated her right, she'd never cheat on me. Well, because of that, I nearly lost everything. I nearly lost the life I had worked so hard to build.<br><br>This is, for me, a wake up call. I will not again fall for the lies they tell us, that it's our job to make women happy. The only way I will ever make a woman happy again is if I also allow myself to be happy first. I will not make the mistake I made with my wife again. Once you burn your hand on the stove, you don't keep touching the stove. You get the fuck away from it and move on with your life. That's what I've done here. <br><br>From this point on, I'll be going my own way.