AITA for kicking my cousin out of my house for saying how "happy" he is that my parents died?
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**ETA**: I want to thank everyone who commented and reached out via PM. It was super overwhelming (I'm not used to that many people being on my side). I gave my cousin the rest of the day to find a place and I'll be calling the police if he is still there tomorrow. I did have one person offer to let my cousin live with them, but he is required to be in one of my neighborhoods. I will try to update after the weekend if you guys want.<br><br>My mom passed away a few weeks ago due to COVID. She caught it after being vaccinated and boosted but her immune system was weakened and was in her early 60s. My dad passed away suddenly a few days after she did but I feel like that's a little TMI for this post.<br><br>Anyway, my parents owned a house and a condo in an HOA with a pool, park, and everything. I'm pretty fortunate and this is what I will inherit when my dad's will is finalized. I have two sibling and neither of them could afford the HOA/mortgage and taxes so I offered to buy them out. I got a HELOC and borrowed money to pay them, my parents left some money for me, and I took a loan from a friend. The only stipulation was I had to let my cousin live there rent free until the money from the house is transferred and the loan is paid off (which should be in a few months).<br><br>The reason for this was my dad got a call from my cousin's mom. My cousin's apartment had shut down (due to COVID, I don't think this is malicious) and he couldn't afford to move into a new apartment. My dad said my cousin could live in the condo because "it doesn't matter what happens to me and I will be dead". So he was living there even before my parents passed away. The day I learned of my mom's passing I called my cousin to let him know and ask him to gather some papers (social security numbers, birth certificates, etc) and he said "I know. I'm so happy that b**** is dead."<br><br>I was shocked, I asked "why?" but he didn't answer. I thought maybe he was just being rude and was lashing out. This was only a couple weeks after my mom's death. The day my dad passed my cousin didn't say anything, and I thought he was still being rude. <br><br>But yesterday we were talking and my cousin said "I'm SO happy your parents are dead. They weren't nice people." I asked "why?" again, and this time he actually answered. He said my parents didn't give him any money and they didn't buy him any food. I asked what he thought they owed him and why he felt my parents were mean. He said "they didn't do anything for me and they didn't give me any money." I asked him "did you pay them rent?" and he said "no". I was shocked and asked "why not? You were living in their condo, using their stuff, and didn't pay them any money?" He said "they said I didn't have to pay them rent."<br><br>I was so angry and hurt. I asked "how could you say they were mean to you? How could you say you're happy they're dead?" and he said "they didn't like me. They didn't like black people." And he is black. I asked "did they ever say anything derogatory to you?" and he said "no, but I could just tell."<br><br>I said "okay, you need to get out." and he said "what? why?" I told him "I don't want someone who is so bigoted living in my house. And you clearly think you're entitled to something. If you don't think my parents were good people, you don't need to live in their house. I want you out by the end of the week." He said "I have nowhere to live. I lost my job because of COVID." I said "that's not my problem." but he just looked at me.<br><br>I think part of why I'm so angry is that my cousin never reached out to me after my parents passed away. Even though we aren't close, I am his cousin and we do live in the same city. I've always felt bad for my cousin because I think he had a tough life and felt like he never had many opportunities. But hearing him say my parents were bigoted and racist (and they weren't, my mom was married to a black man before she married my dad and they remained friends) and that he's "happy" they're dead hurt me so much.<br><br>I know it's been a hard year for everyone but I just lost both of my parents and I think I have the right to decide who lives in the house I inherited. I just want to know if I'm an asshole for treating my cousin this way when he doesn't have anywhere to go.
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