My (M30) wife’s (F31) recent lifestyle changes are killing me

My wife and I have been married for 6 years. We have a 4 year old daughter and a 1 year old son. My wife has always been what I would describe as a SAHM. She’s been very involved in the kids and does a lot for them. Cooking, cleaning, the works. Earlier this year she decided to start going to the gym more. I think the first big change was she started bringing a protein shake with her in the morning and having it after breakfast. I didn’t mind, but it was something new.<br><br>She started going to the gym more and more. Before it was just a couple of times a week. Now it’s every day. And she didn’t just go to the gym. She’d have coffee or drinks with her gym friends after.<br><br>She started making some changes in the house. First, she purged all her old clothes that were too big for her, then she purged mine. She got rid of my baggy jeans and replaced them with slimmer ones. She also started getting rid of anything she deemed unhealthy in the house. Originally it was just sugary snacks, but eventually she just started getting only super healthy groceries. She changed our coffee maker to a different brand and also bought a coffee grinder so we could make our own coffee at home. (I have to admit, it does taste better) <br><br>She got laser hair removal and stopped getting her nails done. She used to have our hairdresser friend come over and do her nails, now she just does them herself. <br><br>I think the biggest change came months later, when she got a job. Now I should mention that she hasn’t stopped being a SAHM. She works an entry level job at some office, but she’s only working part time. She made some changes in the house so she could have her own office. (Our house is pretty big, but I felt this was unnecessary)<br><br>Long story short, my house and my life have been completely changed. She’s been spending more time at work, and the time she does spend at home she’s in her office doing her own thing. I feel like she’s completely abandoned her family. It’s gotten to the point where she’s too good for us. I’m seriously thinking about a divorce. Am I in the wrong? How can I get my wife back? She’s just completely changed. I’m not sure I can keep up with this.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>Edit: I just wanted to add that I did try to have a conversation with her about it. I told her to slow down and not change too much at once, but it felt like she went even faster after I mentioned that.