My boyfriend really likes expensive snacks and I don't know if I can continue this relationship.

So my boyfriend really loves expensive snacks. He gets them in gift baskets or buys them himself, and he really enjoys them. <br><br>I think I probably spend $50 a month on snacks. He says that's crazy and he spends probably five or six times that. It worries me because we're both in our 30s and we want to retire in 20-25 years. If we want to retire early, we need to be frugal. <br><br>Terms of the relationship: we are in our 30s. We've known each other for about two years. We've been dating for about a year. We are compatible in many ways. I'm the frugal one. He's the one who likes to indulge in expensive snacks. <br><br>For example, he'll buy $13 boxes of cookies. $6 boxes of wafers. $9 boxes of crackers. He also buys a lot of flavored sparkling water and tries to push them on me all the time. Sometimes he'll even drink a sparkling water in front of me and he'll make a face and be like "I don't like this one, do you want to finish it?" And I'm like "no, you just spent however many dollars on that and you're just going to leave it unfinished on the counter?" And he's like "I don't like it." <br><br>He'll also buy a lot of cheese and crackers and smoked salmon. So really expensive stuff like that. <br><br>Sometimes he'll even buy gift cards and use them to give subscriptions for gift baskets. For example, Japanese candy or luxury things like that. He'll either buy these for himself or he'll buy them for other people. <br><br>He rallied when I told him how much I spend on snacks and asked to see my receipts. I don't save receipts but I told him to look in our trash and he was like "okay, well you spent this much on these snacks and then you spent this much on these snacks and then you spent this much on these snacks," and he added it up and he was like "you know you spent just as much as me this month, right?" And I was like "no I didn't." And he was like "yes you did." And I was like "no I didn't. You just don't remember all of the snacks you bought because you buy snacks all the time." And he was like "well if you're going to criticize me for spending money on snacks, then you need to be transparent about how much you spend on snacks." And I was like "I don't feel like I need to be transparent about how much I spend on snacks because I don't care how much you spend on snacks. I spend money on snacks because I want to eat them and I enjoy eating them." <br><br>So then he was like "how do you feel about me?" And I was like "I feel like you will probably struggle financially in the future. Sooner or later, your frugal girlfriend will probably either leave you or die of old age and then you won't have anyone to harangue you about spending money. At that point, you will probably have unlimited access to your retirement account, because I'm sure you're building it up. And then you'll be able to spend whatever you want because money will cease to be a problem for you." And he was like "that doesn't sound like you want to spend the rest of your life with me." And I was like "frankly, I don't think that we are compatible long term." He asked me why and I said it was because of the snacks. He was pretty upset and I was sad that he was so upset, so I took it back and said that I didn't mean it. <br><br>I did mean it, and now I feel like I'm in a relationship with someone who I don't think I'm compatible with, but I don't want to hurt his feelings.<br><br>So I guess I'm just venting here, I don't really know what to do. I've talked to him about this. I just don't know if this relationship is worth pursuing and I don't want to hurt his feelings.