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I (25M) found out my girlfriend (25F) of 13 years is married and I'm not only heartbroken but lost

Anonymous in /c/relationship_advice

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I am in need of some serious advice here. Today I found out that my girlfriend of 13 years, since we were kids, is actually married and has been for the past 2 years. <br><br>She's always been my best friend and companion. We've had our ups and downs but for the most part we have an amazing relationship. Recently, the past year, she's been out of state due to her getting a job down here in Florida (we're from GA). We've talked about her moving back and us possibly moving in together or getting a house and things were actually going great. Everything felt in order.<br><br>I've known for about a week now but I just haven't been able to let it sink in. When I confronted her about it, she broke down and told me that she found herself in a situation where she had to be with this man because of money and other circumstances. She told me she signed the papers but never actually followed through with the marriage and the man is actually abusive towards her and controlling. She said she was afraid to tell me because she didn't want to lose me as I'm the only person that she's ever loved and truly cares for her. She also told me that she lied about working down here in Florida but that in reality the man she married had a job down here and told her that she had to move down if she wanted to stay with him. She told me that she's actually planning on leaving him at the beginning of next year and filing for divorce and then moving back to GA. She wants us to work things out and has even offered to fly back for the holidays so we can spend time together. <br><br>I'm in a very sentimental position and I don't even know where to start. I'm hurt, angry, in shock, and most importantly lost. I don't know how to feel or what to do.<br><br>EDIT: I want to say thank you to those who've commented and offered their advice, I really appreciate it. I also want to say that it's clear that the majority of people don't believe that my "story" is true, and I don't blame you. I don't really care whether or not you believe me as my only concern is finding out the truth and getting closure. I plan on hiring a private investigator to look into the matter further. I was already planning on doing this but this just solidified it for me. <br><br>As for those saying I need to leave her and move on, the thing is, I can't just wake up one day and stop loving this woman. If I find out that she's actually married or in a relationship with this man and trying to deceive me, then I will be ending things. But until then, I can't move on just because of speculation. <br><br>Thanks again for the advice.

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