My wife is addicted to the gym and it’s ruining our marriage.

I’ve never posted on a public forum like this, but I feel like I need to now because I’m desperate to get some advice. <br><br>My wife and I have been married for four years and we have two children. We started trying for a second child when our first was 18mo. It took us over a year to conceive and I think that’s when all this started… <br><br>I’d say a year and a half ago, maybe more, my wife started going to the gym a lot. She hired a personal trainer and started going 3-4 nights a week. She said it was good for her physical and mental health and I agreed. She looked great and I liked the fact she was making new friends. <br><br>I have a very stressful job and I work long hours M-F. I’m also exhausted with two young children. The kids go to bed at 7pm every night and I’m usually asleep on the sofa by 8.30. <br><br>Wife used to cuddle up with me on the sofa every night after the kids were asleep, we’d have a glass of wine together and just have a bit of time together. It was nice. <br><br>But then she started going to the gym more; she started missing bed time 2-3 times a week and wouldn’t get home until 9-10pm and go straight to bed. I’d wake her up, saying I’ve missed her, let’s have a glass of wine together etc. But she’d just say she was too tired and needed her sleep for the next day. <br><br>Before I know it, she was going to the gym EVERY night. Even on weekends now; she’ll take the kids for a morning with her mother and then go to the gym after lunch. I’ll pickup the kids from her mother, come home, cook dinner for the kids and she’ll come back at 9pm, go to bed and the whole cycle repeats itself. <br><br>I feel so alone. I’m missing my wife so much and I feel like I’m a single parent to our children. <br><br>When I’ve spoken to her about it, she says I’m being dramatic and that I’m taking away her one hobby and one hour a day where she can focus on herself. She told me to stop being so pathetic. <br><br>It’s her birthday in a couple of weeks and I was thinking about telling her that I’ve cancelled her gym membership and asking her to spend more time with our family. Am I being a dick?