AITA for saying my boyfriend is the reason why I haven't become a mother yet?

-feel free to indicate any typo<br><br>My 34(+1)M boyfriend and I 33F have been together for 6 years and living for 2 and a half years.<br> <br>Before meeting him, I was in a very tough relationship with my ex-fiancé, who cheated on me with his coworker and got her pregnant. He left me to marry her and I was absolutely devastated. This past relationship has left a scar and it took me years of therapy to get better. Therefore, when I met my current boyfriend, I was still not OK in many aspects, and we decided that we should work on ourselves individually and as a couple before thinking about having kids. Although he was not in therapy, he had issues related to confidence and was not satisfied with his career as he was pretty sure he had chosen the wrong path. Things have improved since then, and I feel like we are in a better position to become parents.<br> <br>My boyfriend has recently received a job opportunity with a much better salary; he will have excellent benefits, a short commute, and a regular schedule. This shouldn't be a problem as he works remotely for the same company and has excellent benefits and a great salary (although not as good as the new one). He is very close to his colleagues, and we are also good friends with some of them. The issue is that this job is at the other end of the country, so we would have to move. If we move, we will be far from our families, we may have issues with finding a place to live (as it is a crowded city), and we may have to say goodbye to some lifelong friendships.<br> <br>I am not comfortable with moving as we live in a wonderful area with excellent schools, and our careers are well established. I am close to my family, and I also have a very deep connection with my family on my boyfriend's side. Moreover, since my career is the "family business" (I am not comfortable calling myself the owner, so I use this term instead), it would be a problem to be far away from the company as the headquarters are here. I would like to have kids and, as a mom, I would like to be close to my family. This area is the only place where I feel at home, and the idea of starting everything from scratch frightens me. I am not ready to move, and we are not ready as a couple.<br> <br>I think that we are not ready to move as we are not ready to have kids; our plan was to become parents and then reassess if we were satisfied with living here, but as my boyfriend received this offer, we should think fast. I told him that although it could be an excellent job opportunity, I think that once we are parents, we might regret having moved. I tried to convince him that we should think about our priorities and decide accordingly. However, my boyfriend does not consider my perspective valid at all, and he is angry that I mentioned becoming parents as an excuse.<br> <br>The first day he told me about the offer, I said that I wasn't ready to move, but I did not mention if I was willing to move or not. He asked me how I wasn't ready when we hadn't even discussed the issue yet. He said that he did not understand why I was being stubborn and that I was not considering his feelings at all when I said that I wasn't ready. I replied that I was not ready because I am not mentally ready for such a big change. This is my home, and the perspective of leaving everything behind overwhelmed me, so I needed some time to think. He answered that it was because I did not trust him that much; he said that if he had to choose between the job and me, of course he would choose me, but as he was having second thoughts, I should help him by being supportive and helping me to make a decision. I was shocked to hear this as I remembered him telling me many times that one of the reasons why he wanted to have kids with me was that he knew that I would never leave him: I am "home", and he can be far from home as long as he is with me because he knows that wherever I am, that is "home". I was angry and said that I could not be his "home". I was angry because I felt it was his home too. I think that he is making a big mistake as he is not thinking about our future, he is working on the present.<br> <br>My boyfriend is very excited about the job opportunity and has been talking constantly about it. I am afraid that he is not thinking about our future and only cares about the benefits he will get from the new job now. I told him that he was not thinking about our future; he was only thinking about the new benefits and better salary, but he was not considering the negative implications of this decision. He replied that I was not thinking about our present; he was working so hard to give a better future to our kids, but I was ignoring that we needed to work hard in the present to achieve it, as the road to success is not easy, and I had to understand it. He is currently frustrated because although he has been working for many years, he is not as successful as he wanted to be. He said that he needed me to be supportive at the moment but instead, I was only being critical and stubborn. I do not understand what he means by that; I am not critical, I am just sharing my thoughts honestly, and yes, I am stubborn because there is no way that I will accept moving. I told him that I would never move, and this is not up to discussion; we should find a compromise, but he is not willing to accept any other outcome but moving.<br> <br>I told him that I did not want to be a mom far from family, but he said that where he grew up was also far from his family and it was not a big deal. He said that I was not a typical "family girl" (I do not know how to translate this expression properly) as my family was not very close, which is not true! I am very close to them and that's why I do not want to move, and he agreed on that at the beginning of the relationship. He said that having kids was an excuse for not moving, and he was not considering this perspective as valid because it was just an emotional response. I tried to explain to him that this was not an excuse, but he is not willing to listen, he is too angry to accept my point of view. He said that if he had kids, he would have moved already. I told him that maybe he should have kids with another woman because I am not ready to move, and he replied that I was saying this because I did not trust him.<br> <br>In my opinion, he is rushing things and being irresponsible as he wants to decide without considering my feelings and thoughts. Although he has already talked to his colleagues, he told them that he hasn't decided and wants to talk to me first, which is not true. We decided together where to live, how to decorate the apartment, which car to buy, and many other important decisions were taken together, but he is not willing to consider my thoughts this time. I want to make him see that I am not saying no without thinking about it properly; I want to find a compromise, but he is so frustrated that he is not listening.<br> <br>I tried to make him see that this decision is not up to him alone, and I made it clear by saying that he is the reason why I haven't become a mother yet. He replied that I am the reason why he hasn't changed careers yet because I was not supportive of his decisions and I was always critical and negative. He was not being mean; he was being sincere when he said that, but I am very disturbed by this; I feel that he is saying that I am not a good partner and that I am not willing to help him in any way. I do not want to hold him back, but I also do not want to change my life completely for him.<br> <br>AITA for what I said?