From the /c/MGTOW community on Chambers

Who knows, maybe the next day, day 2, will be my last. Did it. My wife and I had a baby girl two months ago. My wife is still on maternity, but up until now, I've been paying for extra help because my wife simply couldn't cope with looking after our baby. We have 2 other kids. 2 boys. I thought I could help her through the tough time by paying for help, but it didn't work. I decided I'd take paternity leave to get her off her feet for a few weeks and to help myself. I've been tired for a while now. I did that a week and a half ago. Literally on day 1, I discovered she was a liar. She told me only a mother could look after a baby, it's too hard for a man, I was being ridiculous for asking her to hire help. I was putting her through too much by insisting, I didn't appreciate all her hard work and loved her less because of it. She said it was *so* hard to push herself to keep going with 3 kids. I took a week and a half off work to help her out. Day 1 it hits me. I'm exhausted already and I'm the one who's been doing all the housework and childcare. I made her favourite food. I did all the laundry. I did all the bathing and feeding. And my wife? She spent all day sleeping. I woke her up when it was time to eat, told her the food's on the table. "You don't love me anymore. I'm too tired to eat, how can you not see that? You don't appreciate me enough. You don't do anything around the house. I'm doing everything, I can't do this anymore. I'm too tired, I need you to help me more. I don't know how people with 3 kids cope. I'm going back to sleep". That was day 1. Up until now, I've been convinced she's telling the truth. I was seeing things from her perspective. I see what she does. She looks after 3 kids everyday. She's always tired. I've always felt bad about it. But this is the thing. She doesn't even look after 3 kids everyday. She sleeps all day. She's awake in the evening, when I'm home. The kids are already bathed and fed at that point. All she has to do is put them to bed. I've been giving her the evening off up until now. I've been putting the kids to bed. Tidying up. Doing the washing up. I never realised how pathetic I was. I feel so ashamed. That conversation we had on day 1. I should have said something. But I didn't. You know what I did instead? I didn't even finish my food. I took it back to the microwave and saved it for later, knowing I wouldn't have time to eat. And I rushed to get the kids to bed as quickly as I could, so my wife wouldn't have to. And when she came down from upstairs, I thanked her for the food, even though I cooked, because that's the kind of guy I am. Then I cleaned up and did all the laundry and tidied up super early and made sure she didn't have to do anything. I am so pathetic. I don't know what to do. I felt something switch inside me on day 1. I don't feel the same way about her anymore. I don't know how to explain it. I just feel... different. I was in love with her. I would do anything for her. Now I feel like she's a person. I'll look after my kids for the rest of this month. I'll make sure they're all okay. But I'm gone. I'm leaving them all. And I'm never coming back.

Day 1

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