[UPDATE] My (33fm) wonderful wife (33f) of 8 years never been with another guy, is suddenly desperate to start sleeping around.

**ORIGINAL POST**<br><br>My (33m) wonderful wife (33f) of 8 years never been with another guy, is suddenly desperate to start sleeping around.<br><br>We both have really good careers, we're both fairly good looking (she is smokin', I'm reasonably ok), and our sex life has been excellent our whole relationship. She's always been well ahead of the average in terms of sex drive, and ours has always been pretty well matched. We generally do it at least once a day each day we are together, and any given session will go for at least an hour, and involves a good amount of foreplay.<br><br>Until about three months ago I would have said that our marriage was basically perfect.<br><br>Three months ago my wife had lunch with an old friend she hadn't seen in maybe a year. When she came home she was really quiet, so I asked if she was ok and she just said yeah sorry it's just been a bad day. And I was like ok, well if you don't wanna talk about it it's fine. <br><br>Then half an hour later she just turns to me and is like "why have I never explored my sexuality?". I'm like "well you're happy with us, and our sex life, right?" And she's like "yes, but I've never even seen another man's penis". Like I get that's not something you discuss with your husband, but I'm just trying to see her perspective here - she's not like trying to hurt me, she just had this experience with her friend and it has made her think about all the things she hasn't experienced.<br><br>So I was like "well if you want to look at some d**ks go for it?" And she's like "I don't want to just look at them, I want to do everything." And I'm like ok well I don't really feel comfortable with that, but I also feel like it's unreasonable to say no.<br><br>I offered open relationship or poly arrangement, she said she only wanted me, she just wants to go out and fuck randomly. I told her I couldn't stay in that kind of relationship, so she said we would have to divorce. But she said she was prepared to lose our marriage for this and it meant more to her than monogamy or even our relationship.<br><br>I have tried pleading with her and she just sees it as pressuring her out of something that means a lot to her. I have begged her to go to therapy with me but she won't.<br><br>I don't know what to do. I still love her and would take her back if she changed her mind but she says that's not gonna happen. And even if I was to leave her and move on I'd never be able to do it because she'd always be in the back of my mind and I just know I'd end up taking her back. I just feel like I can't function without her.<br><br>This whole thing has been so hard, especially cause she just seems to have changed overnight. All her priorities have shifted and I don't think she's happy but she won't give into her happiness because of this thing that's overtaken her.<br><br>I really don't know what to do.<br><br>TL;DR: My wife suddenly wants to explore her sexuality and that means having sex with other men. I don't want to but she's threatening divorce.<br><br>[UPDATE]<br><br>Hey everyone, thanks for all the messages and advice. Unfortunately it looks like this ended with us separating, as I could not agree to her requests. I'm heartbroken to say the least, I was really starting to get my head around the idea of us being able to do this poly thing, but now that it's over I see that it didn't stand a chance.<br><br>She completely went off the grid when our negotiations broke down. I don't even know where she is now, and she only contacted me once to say she was OK, and to tell me that my sister had agreed to take care of our dogs.<br><br>She did contact me today, however, and told me that she is going to file for divorce because she is "tired of her life". I tried to say we already agreed on this and there's no point taking it to court, but she's gone. She's just gone, and she's not coming back.<br><br>I'm breaking down. I'm getting help, I am. I don't know what else to say. I'm just about to lose the love of my life.<br><br>I hope all of you get what you seek in life.<br><br>**NEW UPDATE**<br><br>I know it's been a long time since people stopped replying, but I wanted to give an update on this.<br><br>My wife and I did end up getting divorced and she moved to another city. I was heartbroken, and it was the toughest year of my life. I was alone, depressed, and for a while I didn't even have my dogs. My sister was good to them and I could visit, but I missed having them in my life.<br><br>I was in therapy for most of the year, and that really helped. In fact everything was going pretty well besides her not being in my life. I had found my way again.<br><br>I ended up getting a text from her early in the year, and we chatted for a while. It was very short and we didn't even meet up, we just caught up and talked a little about our lives. I said I missed her, and that I would always love her, and she really appreciated that. She didn't say she felt the same way, and I didn't expect her too, but she said she was really glad we had met up, and that she missed me too.<br><br>She reached out again in the middle of the year, saying that she was back in our city and was thinking about me. We met up for a little while and talked. I asked if she was still seeing other people, and she was, but she told me that she had slowed down a lot and was mostly just with one guy. She said that she had figured out what she wanted in life, and that she was moving back to our city.<br><br>We hung out a few more times, and I'm not gonna lie I still had strong feelings for her. I felt like I'd just take her back if she wanted me, but I didn't wanna do that again. I felt like I needed her to show me she was serious, to show me that it was really over.<br><br>Then she told me that she had broken up with her boyfriend, and that she was coming over to pick up some of her stuff that was left at my place. She ended up staying the night. And then she never left. We've been living together for a few months now, and we're really back to our old lives.<br><br>She's barely mentioned her time away from me, but she did say that she regretted how she treated me and that she was really happy to be back with me. I'm happy to have her back, and I'm willing to forgive her, but I'm also hurt so I'm taking it slow.<br><br>I hope you all get what you want in life.