My (30F) boyfriend (30M) of ten years has never told his folks about me

Boyfriend and I are both Asian, so you have to keep in mind there’s a lot of expectations and face-saving. I won’t state our nationality but it’s a pretty closed off country with a big cultural difference from North America. <br><br>My boyfriend took me to his home country to meet his extended family to my surprise a year ago. A day before our departure he confessed that he had never told his parents, or his brother about me. I was mad, but more hurt by it. He’s my partner of ten years together, and he’s been my only boyfriend besides a few dates before meeting him. I decided to go and take it as a chance to meet his parents and brother, and everybody else, and then we could announce our relationship. He said he was ashamed to admit he had an “older gf” and that his family would be angry he didn’t listen to their suggestions. <br><br>My boyfriend’s family has been very traditional and arranged marriages are very common in our culture. Everybody wants their children to marry early. When my boyfriend left the country, he promised to find a wife at a certain age, but I guess he failed and never told them about me and that he wasn’t coming back. <br><br>So I didn’t say anything to his family when I met them, and everybody liked me. They mistook me for my boyfriend’s cousin, but that was Ok. Almost a year has passed now and my boyfriend says he feels guilty and doesn’t know how to tell them. I don’t want to lose face, I don’t want to be blamed for keeping him in this country. We want to get married and if we don’t tell them they might not come. <br><br>What should I do in this case?