My friend wants to talk to me about my infertility but I don’t want to discuss.
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My friend just recently had her first baby, I’m super happy for her. She had an easy time getting pregnant, and she’s had an easy time navigating parenthood so far. And she knows I’m going to have a much harder time. I have one ovary instead of the normal two, and I’m also slightly overweight and at 36 I’m gonna have less eggs at quality (according to my doctor).<br><br>A lot of my friends know that fertility is a hot button issue for me. Not only because of my physical issues, but because I grew up in foster care and have some feelings about my early childhood, my mother used to say it was better I grew up the way I did. I’m not sure what she meant by that. She grew up in foster care as well, so she said she knew exactly what I was going through. She said she made the same choice she was glad I was hers. I was pretty young when she said this to me, but I’m still very angry about it. When I found out she made that choice, I didn’t know what to make of it. I just knew that I didn’t like it. I grew up with so much love and support, and I had so many people to help me. I had all the advantages. So I don’t want to have children, no matter what. No one will ever have to go through what I went through. I’ve never felt like I had to justify this decision to anyone, but now my friend (who is loving being a mom) wants to talk to me about it. I have already explained why I feel this way, I don’t want to get into it again. It’s a very personal decision for me. I feel like she wants to try to talk me into changing my mind, but I won’t change my mind. I’m so happy for her, I’m going to support her until the day I die. I don’t know why she would want to do something like that. <br><br>TL/DR- I don’t want to have kids, friend who has kids wants to talk to me about it, I feel like she wants to change my mind, but I won’t change my mind.
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