AITA for kicking out my husband after he told me to do all his chores since I’m so impatient and that if I got laid off I’d just find another job.

We had a big fight last night. <br><br>My husband and I have 2 kids. I work for a big company and he works for himself. He has his own carpentry business. This has its pros and cons, but honestly I think the work he has is stable and he doesn’t have to worry about being fired. <br><br>The biggest con is his schedule is not fixed at all, and he doesn’t communicate well. <br><br>I was laid off from my job 4 months ago due to “restructuring and a bad economy”, however my husband seems to think nothing is wrong with the economy. He constantly tells me companies don’t let good workers go, and that I’m just using it as an excuse not to find a job. I’ve applied to many jobs. I haven’t gotten any calls back except one, but they wanted me to take a very significant pay cut. <br><br>We’ve had an argument regarding chores for a while. Since I was let go, I’ve been doing most of the housework and taking care of the kids solo. I’m looking for a job but in the meantime I felt like it was my job to take care of the house and kids. <br><br>He’s always out and about on his business, but he refuses to do even the bare minimum when he’s home. <br><br>I love him and all but I’m getting so tired and burned out. I told him several times to hire someone to clean or help him and I’d be willing to pay, but he doesn’t want to. I’ve asked him to clean after himself multiple times and do some of the housework but he doesn’t want to as well. <br><br>Last night he came home late and he found me crying in the bedroom. I told him I’m so tired I don’t think I can do this. I’m spending all my time on the kids and the house and I’m barely looking for a job. I barely have time for myself and need to find a way to make money. I told him I don’t want to sacrifice my career, I love it. And I’m barely looking for a job bc I’m so tired and have no time or energy. <br><br>He told me to stop crying like a baby and stop pretending everything was fine. He said that I’m acting so innocent like I don’t want to be a SAHM and have it easy when it’s not. He said he works his butt off and provides while I barely even look for a job. I told him I do look for a job but he said I just do it to calm my anxiety and make myself feel better. <br><br>I asked him if he could just do some of the housework since I need time to do something about my career. He said he’s tired of having this conversation. He said he’s tired of me telling him what to do. <br><br>He told me I should stop doing all the housework and chores since I complain about it so much. I told him that means the house will be filthy and the kids won’t be taken care of. He said I wouldn’t let that happen because I’m insane and OCD when it comes to the house. <br><br>I got so angry I told the house doesn’t even belong to me. I paid my way through college, I make way more than he does, I helped him build his business, I bought most of the big furniture and paid for the house. He shouldn’t talk to me like that. <br><br>He said fine, since I think I can afford to pay for the house on my own then I can. Then he packed a small bag and stormed out. The kids were awake and started crying when they saw what happened. <br><br>I’m so confused and hurt. Did I say something wrong?