We can be so hard on ourselves

Sorry if this has been discussed before, I just wanted to share some thoughts.<br><br>I know this is not exclusively a chubby woman issue, and it really is a universal problem, but I just want to know if anyone else feels this way.<br><br>I'm a curvy woman in my early 30s, and there is this one friend who always tries to point out my insecurities. And I feed into it by taking her observations as facts.<br><br>For example, if I have a big breakfast and the food bloats me, she says something like "Oh, you look so bloated today". If I don't have much time to fix my hair, she says something like "You should really fix your hair, it's a mess."<br><br>I know she is trying to help me, but her comments just make me really self-conscious.<br><br>I know I have some extra weight, I know I'm not the most elegant looking person, and I know I'm not the most fashionable person, but I'm not obese, I'm moderately healthy, and I'm not slovenly.<br><br>It's hard to remember all that when I'm constantly being reminded of my flaws.<br><br>But, I do have this one myth-busting friend. Whenever she's around, my other friend will say something negative about my appearance, and this friend just laughs, rolls her eyes, and confirms that I'm a fine girl and I look good.<br><br>I know I should just ignore my other friend, or just stop hanging out with her, but I'm not that strong-willed. I have self-doubt issues.<br><br>I'm just wondering if anyone else feels this way, and how do you get past it?