I(22F) gave my grandma a laptop and now I regret it
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Hello, I(22F) am a Computer Science student and I got a fairly cheap laptop from my family for my studies last year(2020). I gave it to my grandma as a gift so that she could spend the pandemic more "alone" at her home and not have to worry about going to places to keep herself entertained. Since then, she has called my parents to ask for my number and for me to set up her laptop for her. She doesn't know anything about computers and I had to spend 2 days (literally) setting it up for her and showing her around. Now she calls me almost every day asking me to help her with every little thing she does on the laptop. I show her the same things everyday but she keeps forgetting. I don't know how to stop this. It has become really annoying and time consuming for me. Please help me!<br><br>Edit: ok so now I'm crying because so many of you are being so sweet and giving me amazing advice! My heart is full and i've bookmarked a lot of comments that I think I can work with. Many have pointed out that the best thing for me to do is to make her watch tutorials (because she literally forgot how to open the YouTube app after I showed her how to do it everyday for 2 days).<br><br>Also, yes I have tried the whole "make it simple" idea to the best of my ability, but I think I am just going to lock her out of all her apps and make her click on one tile on the home screen to open the website she wants. She is literally on only one website most of the time and haven't explored anything else. The only issue is that she sometimes gets on the wrong website and then calls me, crying and telling me that she can't open the website and that she's "broken" the laptop. I'm planning to completely take away her access to the address bar to avoid this issue.<br><br>To all those who have commented that this may be the start of dementia or Alzheimer's or anything like that, I'm not sure about what to say. I haven't discussed this with my parents because they have literally thrown their hands in the air and told me to deal with it myself. I do agree with you all, I may have to discuss it with the rest of my family though.<br><br>Thank you all so much! I think I am going to have to visit her this weekend and set things right. Sending face masks and sanitizers to all of you!<br><br>Edit: hi so I talked to my cousin and we both are going to visit grandma on Saturday to lock her out of all apps and make her watch tutorials in front of us on how to use her one website. We are also going to print out a written guide in very big print and Sticky note it all over her laptop and room, please wish me luck!! I am planning to bring her attention to all the red flags we have noticed so that she can discuss it with her doctor on her next doctor's visit. I am not very close to her and do not want to be the one to tell her that we have been noticing signs of dementia. Thank you again to all the amazing people who have commented and given me advice!<br><br>EDIT: hi so I went and I did everything I mentioned in my edit and she spent the whole time yelling at us and telling us that she can't learn anything and now I am really worried that she's starting to get Alzheimer's. When we sat her down to watch the tutorials, she didn't even want to do that and told us that we should do it for her and when we said no, she started yelling at us to leave. I'm so worried about her.<br><br>FINAL EDIT: hey, sorry if any of you were invested in this post, but I have been told by moderators to not discuss medical issues here. I have taken all your comments into consideration and have sent them to my cousin. I have no idea what we are going to do and we are going to call home tomorrow and tell them about it. Thank you to those who gave me advice!
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