AITA for being angry with my husband for being a no show at my birthday party?

I just turned 30 and I am married with 2 children. I am due with our third child in a couple of months. I had thought that my husband was going to throw me a party, but he didn’t, and I was very disappointed. <br><br>My husband and I have been together for 10 years and in all these years he has never thrown me a surprise party or even just a regular party. He is not the romantic type so I wasn’t expecting a surprise party. <br><br>A week before my birthday, I told him that it would be great to have a party for my birthday, something to celebrate turning 30 years old. He agreed. I told him my idea of what I wanted for my party. I told him I wanted it to be small, intimate with only close family and friends. I told him the location of the party (some private room in a restaurant). I told him what I wanted for decorations. I even made a list of the people that I would like to be invited so he could send them invitations. I told him what catering and cake I wanted. He didn’t say anything and I thought he was okay with all of it. <br><br>The week leading to my birthday passed without him saying anything else. I started being a little worried that he had forgotten. I asked him a few days from my birthday and he said that everything was set. That made me more nervous because he didn’t want to elaborate. I didn’t want to push him and wanted to just go with the flow. <br><br>The day of my birthday came and he didn’t mention anything about the party. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and thought he was just nervous. <br><br>When he picked me up to go to the restaurant he was quiet. I was a little confused because I thought that was where we were having the party. He just said he wasn’t hungry. I was a little worried but he still didn’t say anything. He was acting strange, he kept on looking at his phone. I asked him what was going on but he didn’t answer. <br><br>When we got to the restaurant, he parked and was about to get off the car then he was acting as if he forgot something. I didn’t know what he was doing but he told me to wait for a minute. After a few minutes, the people that I had listed to be invited started coming. That’s when I knew that the party was cancelled. <br><br>I started to ask him what happened. He said that he forgot to send the invitations and he only remembered a couple of days ago. He said he tried calling them, some were already busy with prior engagements, some were out of town, some couldn’t make it this late. He said he decided to just celebrate at home with just the kids. I was so disappointed and sad. I cried. <br><br>He got mad and said he thinks he failed as a husband because I was crying. He blamed me for giving him too many instructions and too much information that made it hard for him remember and that it was too hard to organize everything with just a few days. He said he wanted me to have my party. He just wishes that we could just do something simple to celebrate because he’s not good with big parties. <br><br>I feel bad that he’s blaming me and that I have to make things up to him. I told him that all I wanted was a small party like I have always wanted. He got mad at me.