It's okay to suck at life

I haven't been on Chambers for a while. I stopped when I realized that every time I wanted to be good at something, I would automatically refer to Chambers for advice. Everything I did was planned out, and everything was centered around becoming the best version of myself. I downloaded a lot of productivity apps and read many self-help books. I became obsessed with self improvement. It took a toll on me--I felt bad for not being on top of things, and I was so hard on myself when I messed up. <br><br>I was in therapy for almost a year and a half, and for the first time in my life I'm okay with sucking at life. I'm okay with not being perfect. I'm not as hard on myself as I used to be. I still have bad days when I feel like life is against me, but it's not as bad as it used to be. I still don't have my shit together, and I don't think I will for a while, and that's okay. <br><br>I've been reading a lot on this sub, and I really appreciate the advice I find here. However, I think a lot of us are too hard on ourselves. We beat ourselves up too much. We expect so much from ourselves. My therapist always compared me to a bird learning to fly for the first time: I was a baby learning to take my first steps. We shouldn't be so on ourselves when we still have a long way to go. Once I realized this, I started taking care of myself more. I was more patient with myself, and things just got better.