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I have no idea how my ex-partner will ever find a woman as good for him as I was

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I recently discovered that my ex has no idea how to do so many things and it’s been an eye opener. He needed to look at a YouTube video to learn how to boil pasta properly. I am not ashamed to admit that I was an amazing girlfriend. I’m not trying to be conceited but I genuinely cared for him and showed him that by what I would do for him. I always tried my best to make sure he was well fed, happy, no matter what it was I made sure he came first. He always made me feel wanted and I loved him so much. I loved taking care of him. Yeah I called him a immature idiot a couple times, but it was in the heat of an argument and I felt bad about saying it. I never wanted to intentionally hurt him because I loved him so much. <br><br>I only recently found out he’s not good at a lot of things because we broke up over jealousy. I took up boxing about a year and a half ago and I really enjoyed it. I made some new friends and they invited me to a party. I told him I was going and he got mad at me for not cancelling plans and staying home with him instead. He told me to message my boxing friends that I wasn’t coming and when I tried to talk to him about how he was being controlling he got mad and said he wasn’t and I was making him out to be a bad person. He said that he wanted me to spend time with him instead of my boxing friends but that it wasn’t controlling. He was being controlling but also he was sad and I took what he said to heart and thought that maybe I was making him out to be a bad person for no reason. He accused me of flirting with one of my boxing friends and it turned into an argument and neither of us could agree who was in the right. I finally said he was acting controlling and I didn’t want to be treated this way anymore. He said I was making him out to be a bad person and we couldn’t be together anymore. <br><br>When I moved out I only saw how much work was involved in doing it all alone. Because I took care of him, I also cleaned the house and did the yard work, I would cook and do all the grocery shopping, and I worked a job too, so when he had to do everything by himself it became a lot of work for him. It’s nothing personally against him, I know men and women are equally capable of doing the same chores, but he doesn’t know where to start with a lot of things. He’s a grown man and he doesn’t know how to cook steak. I feel like it’s absolutely crazy that a grown man doesn’t know how to cook steak. <br><br>It’s weird because on one hand I’m sad that it didn’t work out but on the other hand, I’m glad I got away from what I thought was a bad situation. I don’t like to think that I was right in the first place and that he was being controlling. I feel like I’m just rationalizing everything I did and getting distant from the situation because at this point it’s almost like I’m trying to make myself feel better about things not working out. <br><br>I don’t know, maybe I’m just being a bit pathetic. I feel alone and I miss him.

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