My ex-fiancée and her husband are saving a marriage that no longer exists.

It wasn’t until this morning that I fully realized their marriage is unlikely salvageable. <br> <br>My ex-fiancée and I were together for over three years. I was in love with her and even proposed to her, which turned out to be the biggest mistake of my life. I planned a proposal to her with her parents at our home in VietNam. She unexpectedly rejected me and called off the engagement, telling me she wanted to end the relationship. I was shocked and heartbroken, and this incident led to a suicide attempt. Fortunately, I survived it. The breakup was incredibly painful for me, and it wasn't until her wedding day that I finally moved on. It was an arranged marriage through her parents, but it seemed as though this relationship was likely going to end in divorce as well.<br><br> <br>Her husband *is* the reason their marriage likely won't last. He's a lazy guy who barely works; he's physically lazy, and he doesn't lift a finger to help in the household, leaving all the chores to my ex-fiancée. It's clear that my ex-fiancée and her husband are growing further apart. She obviously hates her life right now.<br><br> <br>I used to think my ex-fiancée was perfect, but now I realize she's just another entitled woman trying to make excuses for why she isn't committed to fixing her relationship. She constantly blames her husband for what he does or doesn't do. There are always more excuses and more reasons why their relationship is in danger, but never any effort to fix it. I used to think I was stupid for not being able to get through to her, but I realize now that she's just not interested.<br><br> <br>I used to think my ex-fiancée was special, but now I realize she's just an entitled, gold-digging woman who is unwilling to put effort into her relationship. I feel bad for her future husband, but I realize now that I was close to being that guy.<br><br> <br>I wish I could say I'm completely over her, but I can't. I still miss her. I wish I could say that I'm happy to see her relationship fail, but I can’t. What I can say is that it’s my hope that she one day realizes that she takes a significant amount of the blame for her impending divorce. Until then, she’s just another entitled, gold-digging woman who is unwilling to put effort into her relationship.<br><br>**EDIT**<br><br> <br>My ex-fiancée and I are both Vietnamese. Our parents arranged our marriage and the ceremony was held at our family home in VietNam. I had no issues with our relationship until she called it off. I thought it was strange that she ended the relationship after a three year engagement. It seemed unjustifiable and unreasonable. I had no idea that her parents had decided against the marriage. I was finally told that the parents did not want her to marry me because I wasn’t suitable. It was a cultural and status thing. I was told the parents wanted her to marry a guy who was of higher social status. I didn’t know that the parents arranged another marriage for her, and I wasn’t told until after the wedding. The husband and her were married just a few months after her and I parted ways. I didn’t find out about the wedding until a few months after it had occurred. I sometimes wonder if their relationship would even exist had my ex-fiancée and I gotten married.