Big fight with my wife over money, not sure what to do

Yesterday my wife and I were planning to pick up pizza with the girls (my daughter). We were in our financial software looking at the account and I said we could order in. When we were looking at the account my wife saw me move $2000 to my separate account. She asked me why I had done this and I told her that this was my money. I told her that I had saved this money by not spending money at lunch and also I had sold some stuff. My wife told me that we should have this money in the family account. We just bought a new house, so we have spent a lot of money furnishing it. We are also doing some construction. So we spent a lot the past few months. <br><br>I didn’t think anything was wrong with saving money. But my wife does. She said that she’s been noticing that my spending habits have changed. I’ve stopped buying clothes, lunches, and gym. I told her it was because of the house and construction. She said she hasn’t cut back. <br><br>I told her it was no big deal to look at the account. She said it was a big deal. She saw my savings account and she was mad. I asked if I can’t have my own money? She said that it’s our money. I work hard. She works hard. We have a family account for our bills and things, but we also have our own money. And we each have our own savings. <br><br>When I get home from work, I drive 40 min. I listen to podcasts. One of the things I listen to is Dave Ramsey. <br><br>So I told her that I wanted to do the baby steps. I wanted to save $1000. I wanted to save 3-6 months expenses. Our family account is just for expenses. We both save our own money and we both have our own retirement savings. <br><br>I have always tried to save money. I was a cheerleader for our first house. But this time for the new house I was against it. But my wife convinced me. After we bought it, she started spending money on the house and I felt guilty. So I spent money too. But then I started to feel uncomfortable. So I started to save more. And that’s what she found. <br><br>I told my wife all this. I told her that I wasn’t trying to hide anything, but she said she felt like I was hiding it. I said ok fine. We can put the $2000 into the family account. But she said it was too late. I asked what she meant. She said that she felt like she couldn’t trust me. <br><br>I told her that’s nothing to worry about. I’ve always been trustworthy. But she’s still upset. <br><br>So we didn’t order pizza. I went to get it and she took the girls to the park. But I secretly paid with my card because she said she didn’t want to take money from our account when she didn’t trust me. <br><br>I don’t know what to do. I feel bad that she feels bad. But I don’t see anything wrong with saving money.