I ghosted a girl I really liked after she told me she is pregnant and I got angry at her for changing her birth control without telling me.

So basically, I met this girl at college. We were both in our first year and have gotten along great so far. We hung out a couple of times before we got intimate. In the beginning, we would always use a condom and she would take the pill. We were both comfortable and started going bareback. It was great. We had so much fun and I really liked her and was beginning to develop feelings for her. We had planned to stay together after college as well. She would always come visit me at my place and we were getting serious. That's when I suggested that she should get an implant so we can both stop using protection and be more spontaneous as we were sexually active anyway. Neither of us had other partners and we had gotten tested negative for diseases. It was all good. <br><br>Then, she told me that she had changed her mind and stopped taking the pill and instead of taking an implant, she got an IUD. We were both fine and continued to be comfortable. We stopped using condoms and it was great until one day she told me that she is pregnant. I was livid. I had a melt down and asked her what she had been doing. She was embarrassed to admit that she kept forgetting to take the pill because of her studies and she was scared to tell me. She said she kept thinking that everything will turn out fine and wanted to tell me about the pregnancy first. The thought of becoming a teen father and being tied down was something I had feared all my life and here I was. I was so angry and upset about how she had lied to me. I told her I needed space and have left her and am ignoring her calls. I ignored everyone else as well and just want to be left alone. She told me she will take care of the baby on her own and I don't need to worry about it. It's been a couple of weeks since and I have not heard from her and I don't think I want to and am not ready yet.<br><br>I'm not sure if it's normal to be this upset. Neither of us has talked to anyone else about it and she accused me of abandoning her when I started ignoring her. <br><br><br>EDIT:- oh wow, didn't expect this many responses. First of all, thank you all for responding and giving your thoughts. I apologize for any confusion due to grammatical mistakes. English is not my first language so please bear with me. Also, I feel the need to clarify that I was ready to commit and stay with her but not to raise a child. A relationship at 18 is one thing but having to care for a child is a completely different story. I did not even consider abortion because she was already 4 months along. I have been doing a lot of reflecting and although I am very hurt by what she did and she should have communicated with me better, I don't think I handled it the right way. I am planning on talking to her again. Also, I don't know if anyone has noticed, but I am gay. This was just an experiment and exploration of my sexuality and I wanted to try it out and see what it is like. Let me tell you, it was fun and I really did like her but I don't think I can commit to her fully right now. I am planning on coming out to my family and friends and I don't think I can do that if I am in a relationship. Please, if you have any advice, send it my way. Thank you all for your feedback. <br><br>Update:- I called her and she agreed to meet me. She was uncomfortable at first because I had not been answering her calls for the last 2 weeks but she eventually warmed up. I apologized to her and confessed that I was mad because I was not ready to become a father. I told her I was planning on breaking up and moving away. I told her that I would not be able to do it and that she should have communicated with me. I told her I have been doing a lot of reflecting and thinking since then and I believe she should have communicated better but I should not have reacted the way I did. We talked for hours and she told me she understood why I reacted that way and she should have communicated better and told me about switching birth control. She then told me she found out she was 4 months along and she panicked and didn't know what to do and called her sister and then they both decided it was better to keep it a secret if she was going to keep the baby. I asked if she was sure about keeping the baby and she said yes. She told me she was too far along to abort and she was comfortable with raising the child alone. I felt a little better after she told me that and she told me she was willing to work things out and stay together if I wanted to. I told her I have been thinking a lot and I decided I am not ready to become a teen dad. I told her I was planning on breaking up and moving away because I didn't want to be tied down and stay there. She said ok and understood and said she would let me go if that's what I wanted. I told her no. I told her she is too good to let go and I was willing to work things out. We talked and she told me she understands if I don't want to be involved in raising the child and she told me she was fine with me staying in the relationship as long as I am honest and transparent and communicate better this time. I told her I was glad that we decided to talk and I told her I am willing to stay and stay committed if she was willing to communicate better and be open and talk to me. It's been a week and she texted me constantly since. I am trying to be better and communicate with her better as well. I want to stay with her and try to raise the kid as well and be involved. I am really trying and I am making a lot of progress and I feel like everything is going to be okay and we both will have a healthy relationship. I am willing to raise the kid as well because I felt bad thinking of abandoning them and I felt guilty and I want to be involved as well. She agreed to let me stay and be involved as well and she was glad I changed my mind.