Actual moms on Chambers think I'm a he/him because I'm a mom. They are even implying that I'm a single dad (im a 26F) because I posted about my child's birth on ANOTHER SUBREDDIT (r/relationships) in which I didn't explicitly state my gender.

So I recently posted on r/relationships because I didn't want my child's birth to be associated with my main and we have a history of me being doxxed. So I posted with a throwaway on r/relationships about how I'm thinking about leaving my husband just hours after having our baby because he screamed at me in the car on the way to the hospital.<br><br>The post itself got a lot of attention but what really caught my attention was when I posted it on a mom chamber and everyone was like "Ew, no woman does that. Real women stand by their families no matter what" and then I started getting PMs asking me if I was a "single dad" or where my wife was. I was like "Uh, I'm a mom. I don't have a wife, my husband is the one I want to leave" and they just went radio silent.<br><br>I seriously cannot believe that mothers are so willing to victim blame and think I'm a man just because a woman is in a crisis. Like yes I get it, my actions were questionable, but I'm literally in the process of dealing with my ptsd and trying to make my family function. Like damn, I guess I really shouldn't expect anything out of mothers since they literally birthed the men who abuse us.<br><br><br>Edit: Thank you to the anon mom who DMed me and stood by my side giving me advice on how to deal with the situation, that really meant a lot to me. And for those of you who messaged me saying I'm not a "real mom", I hope my daughter grows up to be a strong woman who can deal with your bullshit.